I can't handle my kids

[giantnannyknickers]

I'm very near breaking point. I've a 3 year old and a 1.5 year old. Both kids are absolutely wild. WILD! I can't go anywhere in public with them as neither of them will use a pram and will run off in different directions or both want to be carried at the same time. Both constantly fight for my attention and I can't give them proper one on one time as there's only one of me. The house is a constant mess. It's really getting me down.

The 1.5 year old rips everything out of the fridge daily (locks don't work) they rip clothes off the clothes horse. Throw food into the clean clothes in the washing machine. Is generally just a ball of destruction. Often biting siblings. Pulling hair. I could go on. Both wake multiple times during the night still. Im still breastfeeding the littlest. I'm so exhausted that I often fall asleep fully clothed whilst putting them to bed.

3 year old is in playschool three mornings a week & 1.5 year old has two mornings in playschool. During this time I catch up on cleaning and work I've to do. Their dad has them every second wknd and two evenings in the week. I'm scared to ask him for more help as he will make out in court I'm a bad parent. I've been told that both kids are very well behaved for dad.

I'm just physically exhausted. Everyone has said it will get easier but it's getting harder. How do I get through this time alive?

You can get quite slim side-by-side double buggies (not much wider than a single pram). That should get rid of the pram arguments, maybe let them choose a special toy that is just for in the pram?

Could the biting be teething still? Or is he using it as a way of communicating with you?

The acting out for you and no one else thing doesn't mean you're doing anything wrong, it means they are secure enough in their relationship with you that they know you aren't going to abandon them if they have a tantrum.(not necessarily helpful but hopefully a little reassuring?)

Still carry my 2.3 year old in toddler tula for dog walks as he can't walk far/ fast enough for them to get enough exercise. Yes, he's heavy but it's quite comfortable

@Harrysmummy246 such a great idea! I wonder could I put them both into something like this a doggy pram!

@Harrysmummy246 just googling push bikes and sit on scooters too! You guys are onto something