"Crying - I feel useless"

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Original Thread: www.thedadsnet.com/forums/topic/the-crying/

"One night my wife went out. My son had trapped wind he cried for 1 hour solid. My wife couldn’t help over the phone I was sweating panicking I got angry. Not at him at myself. It wasnt just anger it was rage. My blood was boiling I placed my son on the sofa I was shaking I walked into the kitchen and screamed. After that release I walked back into the room and attempted to deal with my son again.

I felt useless."

Has any of your partners felt like this? Or had similar feelings?

What’s your reason for asking?

Erm... he needs some support and hearing if anyone else is experiencing the same might just do that?

After one hour of crying

I felt like it myself, and had to do the same thing - put the baby somewhere safe and walk away and vent. We all lived, DC are now grown and independent.

Partner rarely bothered with his babies enough to get into this position.

One hour!!! Try listening to it all bloody day and night!

Exactly @alwaysstressed my eldest had colic and finally slept for 3hours in a row aged 3months! (She's 11 and lovely now ).

This thread sums up why so many women feel guilty leaving dh alone with a baby. I will admit I felt guilty myself when dd was a toddler and dtds were newborn. Dh looked after them all so I could go and find new feeding bras and I felt really guilty until it dawned on me that I was able to manage with them 7am-7pm every bloody day while dh commuted and worked so as a fully functioning adult dh would be fine!

Hi there!
Some negative comments but nobody knows the full story, please stay positive and know you aren't the only couple to feel this way. It may be only one hour but it could of been a build up of sleep deprivation, anxiety, stress and just low self esteem. Maybe try just talking, partners can sometimes feel useless because a baby may bond better with the mother.
Just keep positive and make sure you both have time for YOU even if it's an hour a day each or a peaceful bath.