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20 month old boy behaviour & eating issues

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Ak4772 · 02/10/2019 23:38

Hi, I'm new to this and it's my first post so apologies if I do anything wrong.
I have a little boy who is coming up to 20 months old. He's great with his talking, understanding, sleeping etc but we are first time parents and having a couple of issues with the below that we could do with some advise on please....

  • He isn't very good a team sharing or playing with other children, he has a cousin who is 7 weeks younger than him that he has been around a lot since young as well as going to things like sensory classes, soft play etc but when it comes to other children being around be it at soft play or our house etc he bullies them, pushes them over, hits them and won't share even though we have tried so hard to teach him to. It's to the point now where we hold our breath when we are around other children in case he does something. He's so good when he is at home alone, plays with us and alone so well it's just other kids.

** when it comes to eating he used to be really good when he switched over to solids and would try and eat most things put in front of him. Now as time has gone on he won't even entertain food so that he used to love let alone try something new. His diet is consisting of cereals, pancakes, potato based products and bread items. He always has veg and meat put in front of him most meal times in small quantities but he will either gag at the site of it or lick it and gag. It's like he has decided he doesn't like it before trying it. We both have a good varied diet and finding it stressful that he won't even try. Thanks for any advise or tips anyone can offer.

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JoMumsnet · 03/10/2019 12:17

Hi @Ak4772, and a warm welcome to Mumsnet.

We're just bumping this thread in case there are any Mumsnetters on hand to offer some advice and support. Brew

Bucatini · 03/10/2019 12:25

Hi OP

My DC3 went through the pushing / hitting phase when he was the same age as your DS. It was such a shock as my older two never did this! I tried so hard to make him stop, and the thing that eventually worked was that I would give him ONE warning, and if he hit again I would take him straight home. If you're at home already it's a case of being a 'helicopter parent' and staying very close to him to try and spot the warning signs and intervene.

Not sharing is normal at this age so I wouldn't worry so much about that.

The eating thing is also normal. All three of my kids are good eaters and they ALL went through a fussy stage at this age. Don't worry, keep putting the food in front of him as you are doing. He will pick up on your stress, so act as if you don't care at all whether he eats it or not! Don't try and bribe him or put pressure on him to eat, or mealtimes will become a battleground.

Good luck OP.

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