Did you find it harder going from 1-2 or 2-3?

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As the title asks, did you find it harder going from 1-2? Or 2-3?

Haven't quite decided whether to go for it yet...

Found 2-3 definitely harder as had 3 at home so was just outnumbered. Good luck whatever you decide

2-3 was harder but on the flip side it is worth it!

Watching with interest

I was expecting (hoping?!) people to say 1-2 was harder...

Interesting.

2-3

just much more work to do

but lovely at times!!

1-2.

2-3 was a dream, no 3 just slotted into our lives without any fuss. Lulled us into such a sense of security and thinking that we'd nailed it that we went onto have no4. We hadn't nailed it.

2-3, more children than hands 🙈

Nooo don't all be saying 2-3! how old were all your children if you don't mind me asking?

DC1 would be 8-9 if we did go for it and I'm wondering if that might make it easier...

I didn't find one harder than the other. I expected my third to be tricky, but it wasn't, I just adapted my routine slightly. Goimg from 3 to 4 was hard though, but I think that was down to my youngest three being very young.

2-3 by a long way. Dc1 was easiest baby ever, dc2 slotted in. Think ages might have been big issue - DC 1&2 were 4 & 2 when dc3 arrived.

1-2 because the age gap was so small, only 16 months. 2-3 was a doddle in comparison.

2-3 because you can't sleep at night and you can't sleep in the day. You basically can't ever sleep. But you have to. I went insane. Only two years between each child though. And I'm fine now! Ha ha ha, I'm not fine now lmao.

I found 1-2 a far bigger shock to the system. Emotionally I felt very wobbly for a while about the loss of our little unit of 3 and about not having the time I’d had previously for my PFB. By the time number three arrived I was used to that feeling and my second child has never known life without a sibling so one more didn’t seem such a change to the status quo.

Your eldest being 8/9 will make it so much easier. Their needs are very different to toddlers and the ones I know who’ve had new babies at around that age have really loved it.

Definitely 1-2 for me. There's only 13 months between them so I literally had 2 babies on my hands! I now have 3 under 3 (a just turned 3 year old, a just turned 2 year old and a 4 month old) but as I knew what to expect and what would be difficult, I mentally prepared!

2-3 has been ridiculously hard. Mine are 12, 3 and 1.

Honestly I found 0-1 the hardest.

1-2 was alright and 2-3 has been fine. The only thing I've noticed is a ridiculous increase in laundry.

Forgot to add they are 5, 3 and 0

Definitely 2-3. I had my second baby when first was only 11 months old. It wasn't as hard as I expected as we were already in the thick of it baby wise. 3rd came along when the others were 3+4 and it was hard. Still is! Definitely not having any more.

0-1 the hardest, but that’s because 2 was an easy peasy baby and three was a nightmare he is the glue that binds all of us together though.

He didn’t sleep for 3 years and I couldn’t work cause he was so clingy but it’s lovely and I wouldn’t have it any other way as even at the height of sleep deprivation he was great company and a very easy going kid

0-1 was by far the hardest here.

1-2 was easier, 2-3 was easier still.

I'm not sure whether we became progressively better parents ()or whether we were just sent calmer babies.

Obviously age gaps play a part as well, a ten year old and a baby is different to a baby and another baby...

0 - 1 was the hardest by a million miles.

In comparison 1 -2 was a piece of cake and 2 - 3 was a joy. Hardly noticeable.

I suspect some of this is to do with their personalities. A Lot has to do with being a more experienced parent and worrying FAR less about the small stuff.

1-2 was awful. 2-3 no problem. It's totally down to the personalities of your children, though!

A good rule of thumb is never let your children outnumber you!!

Sherbet yes that is a good rule however it's easily done easily done these days.
OP yes if your first will be 8-9 that will definitely help. My ds1 was 9 when ds4 came along and he did help a lot and could trust him with things(well with limits)