Court order

[1104042004xllx]

Hi my children where put on a care order over 1year ago reason I was drinking to much iv delt with my issus but there still saying my girls will be staying with there grandparents till there 18 and they dont want to talk about kids coming home what so ever my solicitor has told me to go bk to her in January to try and apply discharge but social are saying its not long anuf miss my babies so much looking for advice

What is your current situation with regards to work? Have you a job? What about a partner? Do you have one?

Yes am part time and my partner works for himself

How often do you see them?

How old are they?

Wow....

How much were you drinking?

Meccacos wtf? What's that got to do with you??

I see them every Friday for 2hrs and Saturday for 3hrs supervised Haven't drunk for a year 4cans a nite and a bottle of wine at weekends?? there 5 and 6 ?

So what happened to the children while you were drinking that caused the courts to see them as endangered?

They weren't take off you for drinking, the average Brit drinks more than that

They were put in care because of something that happened while you were drinking - did you leave them alone? Turn up to school drunk? Drive drunk?

Whatever it is (you don't need to say) have you engaged with parenting courses etc ?

I think the advice you will get on here will be too vague, nobody knows your family situation and what’s really led to this. You need to keep on with taking advice from your legal professional. Best wishes with everything and I do hope everything works out x

I work in an hospital A+E and we have to engage with the social services system quite a lot. As far as I know, you have to work with the system and do what they ask even if you hate it. When I speak to social services it seems that people who engage with the system are seen in a better light.

Dont get me wrong, you can still push for your kids back. But also keep engaging with the system at the same time - thats really important.

Dont listen to people on this thread who are fishing for info about your situation. Im actually shocked about the amount of people who are asking inappropriate questions rather than offering advice. They dont need to know and you dont need to tell them.

Have you spoken to the grand parents? What do they say, what do the kids want? What is best for the kids?
Normally it is a long process for you to lose yr kids and another to have responsibility, did you leave it too late to make changes?

Can you increase the contact? Can you have unsupervised contact?
What support do you have to not return to previous behaviours?
Sorry it is tough for you, but put yr kids first how are they?

@1104042004xllx I’m a social worker. If you are still having supervised contact them CAFCASS and the Court are unlikely to consider returning them to you (reunification). Your first step will need to be working with the children’s social worker on unsupervised contact, and showing that this is working well for a period of time first. Then progressing to an overnight if allowed.

What have you done in the year since they were removed to demonstrate your commitment to remaining abstinent? Courses? Rehab?

Are they any concerns about your partner? Domestic abuse? Mental health? Social Care involvement?