Feeling crap about my shouting

[carrottopper]

I'm not the mum I thought I would be. I keep shouting at my daughter whilst trying to get her to do homework. She's unmotivated (probably because I shout at her) and it's so frustrating that it takes 20 minutes of arguing to start what times just 5 minutes homework/reading/spellings. We spend longer arguing about it than actually working- so it's not like I'm making her do loads. She's only 6. She's isn't necessarily struggling but I have no patience- and I just shout and am horrible. I'm trying really hard to remember how to model patience and kindness but it keeps happening.

Any tips for keeping calm?

I'm anxious that she is falling behind in reading and writing especially. It's triggered by the fact that she is unmotivated to do just a little reading. I end up shouting. Feel shit!

I'd just take the pressure off completely. It's really not worth worrying about pushing homework too much at this age (in my opinion)

If you are worried about reading practice, you could do it in other ways. Little bits as and when, rather than forcing the issue after school

What time are you doing it?
We’re you doing it last minute?
Sometimes changing the time helps. Do it in the morning.
She’s only 6. I never made my kids do hw at that age if they didn’t want to. They hardly ever read the school books either.
Keep reading with her though. Let her choose books at the library if she doesn’t like the school ones.
At that age, follow her lead. Mine loved dinosaurs so every book we read, every bit of homework was related to dinosaurs.

I've tried morning, after lunch, after school, before bed- taken into account hunger, tiredness- nothing changes it. She feels pressure because I'm anxious about her reading. She is absolutely fine once she starts but the battle is long drawn out and shouty!