My 2 year old loves my mum more

[Alexandrasxx]

Hi everyone, I've come here today to see if anyone else has the same issue as me. My son will be 2 next month I'm a single mum I'm with him 24 hours a day but he stays at my mums house 1 night a week 2 nights an odd time which I'm so grateful for.. but it seems as though he much prefers my mum than me when she leaves our home he screams & cries for her, then if I'm at her house or we're all out together he runs to my mum for everything he doesn't want me as much as I try, he wants to be carried by her cuddled by her sit next to her I could be playing with him or cuddling on the sofa with him and he run out to go get my mum he doesn't even want to be in a different room to her. I do everything for him but he just prefers his grandma and I don't know what I'm doing wrong.don't get me wrong I LOVE how much he loves his gran but I'd be lying if I said it doesn't hurt me the favouriting part 💔 has anyone else experienced this? Xx

Please don't worry. You'll always be his mum and he'll love you. It's so nice he loves your mum too but she's not his mum.

Yep, been there! It goes on waves though, sometimes he prefers me, and sometimes my husband. I think a big part is the novelty of grandmas house so I wouldn’t take it personally

It’s a novelty. He’ll think of you as his mum, the person who does all the things for him (which are unfortunately the boring parts of looking after kids) and nanny gets to be fun nanny.

Someone on here previously said she felt the same and a reply said that the child takes the mum for granted as said child knows she is their mum and will never leave, however others like in-laws or maternal gran do leave so they hold onto them as much as they can as they don’t know when they will see them again. Or somesuch.
May be untrue but it would be an explanation. Kids do seem to have a favourite parent and that changes back and forth. Soul destroying but there you are, you are not alone!

Thank you everyone. The only thing is he doesn't even want me to do the boring parts of parenting for him he wants my mum for literally everything. So when we're all together I feel like some out of place person that tries to be mum but he pushes me away people are starting to notice it too so it's not me exaggerating or anything 😓

Yes actually that makes sense that they try hold on as they don't know when they will see them next, I suppose it could be that. Thank you for that x

@Alexandrasxx
Sorry your feeling like this!
I feel the same atm, we've moved back into my husbands parents I feel Asif my son who's is 18 months wants his nan more than me. Constantly says nana all day long and wants her to pick him up and cuddles her on the sofa and stuff and he just walks past me like I'm not there. It really does upset me you kind of feel like 'but hey I'm your mum'. As another poster said previously and what my mum said aswell it's because they know your never going to leave where as other people come and go. Try not to take it personally your his mummy at the end of the day and that will never ever change x

I'm a SAHP and my DS likes every other family member more than me. I'm sure it's a phase and he'll like me again when he needs a lift somewhere in about 12 years time.

I was minding my DDs all day and when DP came in DD1 said "bye bye mammy". The first thing she says every morning is "where's daddy". The ones they see less are more fun. Don't take it personally, kids are not sensitive to people's feelings.

It's true, I think it's biology, mum's are always there, it's a given, so they don't need you as much. I suppose it's a bit supply and demand 😁

Thank you everyone for your kind words and reassuring me! I feel better about the situation after your answers ❤️