Too overprotective

[OBone]

Hi, sorry this is a long waffley time. I was wondering if anyone could give me any help/advice. I have a 16 month old daughter and when she was very young I felt I was quite naive and really didn’t know much about what to do as a parent so I kept continually reading information on google. This lead to me absorbing tonnes of info on BPA dangers, cigarette smoke dangers, the dangers of non organic food, this list is endless. Fast forward to now and I feel like I’ve become some sort of overprotective crazy person to the point where no one wants to spend time with me. We went out on a day trip to a local village and I was so obsessed with car fumes, people smoking around lo, her getting sunburnt (I’m still too scared to use suncream on her skin), what she puts in her mouth, that everyone said I ruined their day out as I make them uncomfortable. It’s also extending to my personal health, where I feel like I can eat anything that’s been in plastic because I’m breastfeeding and I don’t want her to absorb bpa. My whole family thinks I’m crazy and I need professional help, but part of me keeps justifying it to myself as me just trying to keep her safe and helping her to become the best she can be without any chemicals etc affecting her brain development. Am I crazy? Is this normal first time mum behaviour? I just don’t know what to do to ease my mind 😖

Complete madness!

If you are obsessed and people are noticing you’re doing it wrong.

I think you should go and discuss it with your GP. Some anxiety is normal but not to the extent that you are unable to do what your child needs eg apply suncream.

Read only trusted places for health/parenting info eg nhs and baby centre.

No this isn’t normal mum behaviour.

My dd is the same age and most of your concerns listed have never entered my mind.

What’s so bad about suncream? Surely it’s better than damaging their delicate skin wit sunburn.

You need to see your gp for some supposed.

greentulips that is SUPER helpful advice

Op, the fact you're posting here obviously means you know deep down that this isn't normal. It is so hard, knowing if you're doing the right thing or not, and most of are probably guilty of reading too much on Google. It's clearly affecting your life and your relationships, and they're noticing it as well. I'd maybe have a chat with your GP if I were you. You obviously love your little girl and just want everything right for her. However, worrying about plastics being adsorbed into her body via breast milk for example, isn't rational. Speak to your GP or HV. And stay off Google for a while

Good luck and hugs to you

You need to see your GP and soon. I'd show them your message if you can't explain in person.

Thanks nuttynutella for your more nicer message. I get that I am being crazy but sometimes people don’t need to be so harsh.

OBone no worries. Parenting is hard and most of us are totally winging it. I'm constantly questioning myself as a mother. You obviously love your little one, definitely speak to GP or HV. Feel free to inbox me if you ever need anything :)