My 22 month old is violent around other children

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I find it so embarrassing and I'm not sure what to do. At nursery she is apparently fine, but whenever I take DD to playgroups or to friends with similar aged DC, she snatches off them, slaps them, pulls their hair, bites. I seriously can't leave her for any amount of time otherwise she will lash out (and by leave her, I mean sit on the couch in the same room, instead of directly next to her and other child on the floor). I've tried doing gentle hands and it worked for a while, now she will just slap and hair pull etc and then stroke them after, but it doesn't prevent her.
I'm at a loss and I feel so guilty because I think this is my fault as I allowed her dad to treat me like shit in front of her for so long, and she's probably just so used to seeing it.

Don't blame yourself. A lot of toddlers hit and push, they don't have a way to manage their frustration and emotions yet.

Have you tried moving her from the situation? My DS doesn't hit but is a little so-and-so sometimes (imagine the hulk) and I've found taking him away from the situation helps. It gives him a bit of time to calm and then he's usually ready to return and play with something else. I talk to him about his feelings when we're away from the situation, I'm not sure how much it helps yet.

Absolutely don’t blame yourself. My dd is the same and she’s always had a ‘settled’ home life. I’ve noticed my dd behaves like this though when she’s going through a change, main one being moving up rooms in nursery. It usually last a couple of weeks and she calms down. Nothing I do helps when she’s behaving the same way and the only thing I can do is remove her from the situation until she calms a bit. She’s over three now and feel like she’s improved a lot.