Oh god, course has made me go all broody, should I lose weight before trying again?!

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I've started a BF counselling course today, and that combined with the fact that my DS1 turns 1 tomorrow and has just stopped BF has made me feel really broody!

We always knew we wanted to have another one close-ish in age so they could be great mates (in theory!) but I really wanted to wait until I'd lost more weight and maybe got some more cash together!

THe main thing though (god, I'm so vain!) that I put a lot of weight on when I was preggers. I've lost most of it now, just got a stone to go but my BMI is 26.9, so 1.9 past where I'd like to be to say the least! Is it worth sticking to my guns and getting shot of the weight first or should this be secondary to getting a close age gap between nippers?

I heard sommat the other day about women who are obese have a higher risk of probs with the baby, but I'm not exactly obese! I can't work out whether to listen to the practical side of my brain which is saying "wait a bit" or my heart/hormones which are saying "hurry up woman!" I'm only 30 so I'm not quite ancient....But then I worry what if it takes me ages to shift that stone?

Sorry, am waffling, will shut up now. Any advice please ladies?

Think you are in enviable position being able to chose when to have another child, many can't do this at all.

If you feel broody then go for it, have another - you can always lose weight steadily whilst trying for a baby?

Go for it. You're not that overweight. I have two with 18 months in between, and now they are playing nicely together which is why I'm sat here on mumsnet

Hi MadLab,

Who knows if I am in a position to choose? No one really does know until they try...

Cheers Belgo,

I just don't want to find that if I don't get it all off now, I'll be stuck with it forever?

I lost the weight because I had morning sickness.

Why don't you start ttc and use that time as a perfect 'excuse' to eat as well as possible, exercise, and sensibly lose a bit of weight. Then you can do both!

I am pg again, having not lost the weight I put on whilst bf. "Obese" is supposed to be BMI over 30, so I think you would be fine.

No lose the weigth before hand- lots gained is much easier to shift especially *after8 you have a baby. I never regretted doing this more than once and I feel this contributed to having happy healthy pregnancies.

Oops meant- lots of weight gained after having a baby is much harder than losing it before hand- and it means you have a fab goal.

Cheers peeps! Eurgh, saw some photos of myself this weekend and think losing some weight first might be a good idea!

Plus am too annoyed with DO right now to even contemplate creating #2!

oooops, meant DP, not DO...

I put on quite a bit of weight with dd. Then fell pg with ds when she was 11mths and i hadn't lost any. Somehow i ended up slimmer after having number #2 than i was to start with!(Have put it back on now though )

Ooooh, Milky, that's interesting...I've lost 2 stones this year, and if I managed not to put loads of weight on but still lose 2 stones BF another it might work out alright! Wouldn't wanna bank on that though....