Is a nappy changing bag an acceptable present for a birthday?

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I saw this thread over on Dadsnet: www.thedadsnet.com/forums/topic/birthday-present-for-a-new-mum/

The dad is asking whether buying a change bag for his partners birthday is the same kinda thing as buying an iron for a Christmas prezzie...

Thoughts?

I'd be most disappointed if it was me.

Not acceptable at all and this is coming from someone who has actually asked for a new hoover and a heater airer for gifts in the past. She is a person first and a mum second so why should her birthday gift be dictated by the fact she now has a baby? There's no way anyone would ever buy a new dad a changing bag for his birthday.

No. No. No.

I got one for my 30th.

It was a crap one I would have never chosen, didn't even fit on any pushchair, looked awful.

DS is about to do his GCSEs and I'm still annoyed

Depends on his DP/DW wants one I guess?

I always ask for kitchen gadgets for Christmas, and one birthday I got maternity clothes off DH (I asked!)

Shit no. That's not a present for the mum it's for the baby!

My dm gets me birthday cards these days that she knows my dd would like (with ballerinas and unicorns etc.). It pisses me off no end.

Well I got one as a Christmas present last year. BUT it was a lovely, quite expensive one that I really wanted after having a new baby to replace my old knackered one that'd been through one child and it's one that can be used as an actual overnight bag once it's finished being a changing bag (all of the changing bits come out). They way I saw it was it was basically going to be my handbag for the next year so I wanted a really nice one.

So if it's wanted, and a bit of a treat, fine. If it's a bog standard changing bag that's simply functional then no, it's on par with buying an iron.

I've asked for a hospital bag for my birthday, DP has bought me quite an expensive one that can be used for baby afterwards and has loads of different features that I wouldn't usually have chosen myself. Saves me the task of having to find one!

Someone send the Dad the link to this thread

I think it is a nice present. It's something I needed when I had babies and toddlers and had to carry everywhere so a nice one would have been a lovely present for me. I would much rather have something I would use as a present than done useless luxury.

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I think if it's a treat then it's ok. I mean, if it's something she wouldn't usually spend money on and would make do with an old rucksack but really, really wanted an expensive one... Then it's fine. It all depends. If she's used to receiving nice jewellery and got this, she may be miffed. I'd definitely also get some nice underwear or something to balance it out!

I wouldn't be impressed unless I had asked for one. I also find it annoying when MIL refers to it as my bag to DD, I generally say it's DD's stuff in it so not really mine.

I would be fine with that as a present. I wouldn’t buy a ‘nice’ changing bag for myself so it would be nice to be gifted a Storksak one or a Pacapod. I don’t see how it’s a gift for a ‘baby’! I am carrying the bag not the baby.

As above.. I know when my friend was expecting dc4 she wanted a nice pretty one but couldn’t justify it, she was really happy when her mil bought her the one she really wanted for her birthday. So context is everything!

I haven't read the Dadsnet thread but from your summary I'd say it's a no-no.

Last birthday, DH got me a card that had dinosaurs on it, because DD1 likes dinosaurs. It wasn't "from the kids", it was from him. I didn't say anything about it but I did think, Jeez the 364 other days of the year are all about the (2 2-and-under) kids, could I not have 5 minutes of my own thing? If he'd have bought me a nappy bag I think I might have shoved it somewhere unpleasant

Off topic but is dadsnet linked to here at all?

I received one from my then dh I was not impressed. It was a very nice bag and all that, but it wasnt really something for me.

I did get one for my birthday. It was a nice one though that I had asked for. It was my handbag after all. I got a baby carrier too.

Generic plain one from Mothercare? No way.

Nope nope nope. Anyway, the changing bag isn't just used by me, it's used by my husband too!! Definitely up there with getting an iron.

Hell no, and I gave birth on my own birthday!

Unless it's a £££ Tiba + Marl, Jem + Bea or similar that she's been lusting after but not wanted to spend the money on, absolutely-no-fucking-way.

If she's like me she'll have spent quite a lot of her own money on small things for the baby that all mount up (even though DH and I normally have a very equal attitude to money), so it would really grate on me if I received a baby essential for my birthday from him as well.

I asked for one for Christmas last year!! Haha I'm in the minority here

I wouldn't mind as the baby-now-toddler bag is my bag but then DH knows this and knows how I love a bag of any kind

If it was a really Ott special designer one or she had specifically asked then possibly? Otherwise definite iron territory.