potty training shall i try again or wait and be led by my child

[firstmum45]

After consulting so called text books on this matter. The books said my daughter was ready to start so we had a go in the whitson holiday. Whilst she was quite happt to sit on a to read etc before potty training started when it came to the day she refused point blank to sit on the potty.

The day was spent cleaning up child and floors all day.
On day two my daughter said she did not want to wear big girls pant anymore and asked for a nappy.

I wisely (i hope )decided that the time was not right and decided to wait until later.

My gut feeling is to wait until dd shows signs but not sure what tyeh maybe.

Sometimes she asked for her nappy to be changed as she is aware when is does a large wee. However today she did 2 poos and never batted an eyelid.

To be honest I am in no rush to do this her preschool changes if required and at the moment I see my colleauges stressed out with potty training carrying tons of stuff around with them but still resorting to a pull up if th day i awkward ie long journey in car etc etc. I,m also sick and tired of them going on about how wonderful their little darlings are I never realised it was some kind of competition!!!!

I am wise to wait your advice appreciated also dd (she is 2 years 7 months ) wants a toilet seat however I need one with handles as she is very petite it must be red or at least have a cat on it!!!! i know impossible to find my dd is very fussy have same problems with clothes.

hi now would probably be best to start potty training really as sheis at that age

do a sticker chart and maybe get some cat stickers let her help you make chart and when sit son potty praise her and say if you do wee then you get a sticker and so on and if gets so many stickers will get a prize

dont forget its ok for her to wee on floor and dont get upset about it as its all part of the learning i forget how many wees i have had well not me personally lol my ds 2.3 but he will take himself but he has delayed spaeech so cant ask anyway

if does wee on floor just say oh dear quick we better sit on potty as thats where its supposed to go or they will feel they have done wrong and be afraid to keep trying give it a few days and she'll soon get the hang of it just praise even the smallest of efforts and make sure she knows accidents are ok its natural get her a potty chair as its jsut as good as toilet but obviously her hieght and maybe let her decorate it with some stickers

Wait until you are both ready.....

Perhaps leave the potty out and wait until she shows signs of wanting to use it.

I used the mamas and papas duck ride on potty for my son and it did help imo as he actually wanted to sit on it because it was fun!

We also used a sticker reward system that gave him an added incentive.

Good luck when you do it..... its one hell of a ride but pretty short lived! I found that it was pretty much a case of shutting us in the house for a week, keeping ds totally starkers and running around like a headless chickeN with the potty in my hand! But after a week or so we had it nailed.... good luck!

probably best also as weather is nice to leave knickers off as easier for them to just sit on to potty then and then when confident with taking herself try with knickers you can also buy a travel pot that folds up so its not so bulky to carry around and you get hygeine bags with it to go into my friend has little girl and says its a godsend as you dont need much room to carry it as so compact think she got it from boots if dd wees on floor sit her straight on potty say good try but try and let mummy know before you go next time so we cn be big and earn a sticker just make it fun we always sing wee wee on the potty and dance around it got my ds used to going and he enjoyed going

yes wait!.....or otherwise it be too much for you to handle. My dd was exactly like that too (she is 2.10)...i started it last year she managed 2 days and then refused point blank for months after that....a few weeks ago and after weeks of asking her to not wear her pullups, she eventually agreed and never looked back. (nappies for bed/nap time). I did treat her on her first successful day!

Good luck anyway x

wait until DD is ready. You cannot force a child to know when he/she needs a wee. If they don't know, they don't know.

Months ago DT1 started to hold himself and say wee wee when he needed to go so i gleefully bought two pottys and decided that the following weekend would be the one. Both in pants ready for the off, day one, 10am we had gone through ALL of their pants (15 pairs) and all of their trousers (10 pairs). I gave up. I decided my weekends were about spending time with the boys (as i work full time, these are my only days) and not about mopping floors, cleaning clothes nd emptying pottys.

Anyway, nursery started to put them in pants during the day and cos there is more structure there, they would take them for a wee every half an hour, they never had to ask....they were dry in the day about a week later. Howevere weekend would arrive, accident after accident cos i would forget to potty every half hour, plus we had places to go and things to do and i would end up putting them in nappies.

last week, it all clicked, one of my dts just started to take himself to potty when he needed to go, as long as i praised him the other one would go even if he didn;t need to. My philosophy is now, they will do it when they are ready, no rush....when u have a day when u plan to go nowhere, just have pottys out on display, pants on, no trousers and let them run round....ask frequently if they need to go, or make it compulsory to go every half hour and it should just click. But don't stress it isn't the end of the world if your kid is not dry by age 3 it really isnt.

Thanks for all your comments my instinct tells me to wait. Did the same with her bedtime bottle and she actually stopped having one earlier this year without any prompting from me.

I just think it is crazy to spend so much time stressing out on this thing when really you should be enjoying the time with your child.

My colleagues who are potty trainig now seem to have no social life at all for their children or themselves it just seems stupid to me.