3 year old & nursery

[Jess131994]

Hi all, first time poster here!

I really need some advice / opinions. My daughter has just started Nursery this month although was familiar with the teachers and surroundings as my son has been going there for 2 years but has now moved into school.

She is quite confident and outgoing but gets a bit upset when I drop her off, she currently goes for morning only. I have been offered a job as a nursery TA there however for this job I need to do 3 months experience in the school with different classes. I am a bit worried about sending my daughter for lunch and the afternoon as she is only 3 years old and is a long time to go without me at that age. The nursery position is in my daughters class which she would love as I would be there with her all day once the 3 months are done. This is the PERFECT job for me though so I really don't want to throw it away because I don't want her to spend 3 months of full days without me but I want to put her best interests first.

Does anyone have an opinion or advice? She currently goes from 8:30am - 11:30am. The change would mean 8:30am - 3pm.

Thanks for reading!!
Jess

In my own experience my son has been much happier at nursery the more he is there.

(But are you sure you’d be in his room? That’s not allowed at the nursery we use)

She'll be fine. I expect your anxiety is stemming not only from the fact that she's been upset when you drop her off but from the thought of starting a new job.

It's a lot to manage...it's all change.

But separate the two and it will help.

Most 3 year olds manage fine on the hours you mention...I was a SAHM but sent both my DD's for full days after their first month in nursery and it was a great thing for them both.

It's also great that she will get to establish herself without you before your arrival.

The nursery position is in my daughters class which she would love as I would be there with her all day once the 3 months are done.

This doesn’t sound great imo. Is it allowed?

Child will be fine. However, are they really keeping a position open for you for 3 months? Surely if they have a job advertised for TA now they need to fill it now?

I don’t think it’d be good for her either actually.

Yep, the job will definitely be open in 3 months as they currently have a temp doing it.

With regards to her being in the same class as me, yes the school has confirmed it is all fine and they currently have other parents in similar situations. It will only be for about 6 months and she is actually quite independent when she gets stuck into things so I don't have any concerns.

Are the nursery and the school the same place and are they hiring for a position after Christmas? Your daughter will be absolutely fine, I agree not ideal for her to be with you but it won’t be forever

Yes nursery and school are in the same place and they currently have a temp until Christmas but want someone permanent from January which would be me. Until then I need to do 3 months in the school. The nursery have confirmed that they have a place for my daughter in the afternoon.

Thanks - I think I know deep down she will be okay but I just worry a lot :(

You've answered your own question Jess...she's quite independent when she gets stuck into things.

it will be fine.

Thank you, I agree it is a lot of change and I do need to see them as separate things - that is good advice.

Definitely do it - 3 months is such a short amount of time for a job that fits so well