Is 4 days away too much?

[littlemama18]

Slight panicky last minute post !!

I'm a single mother to an 18 month old little boy, it's always just been the two of us (DV) I went back to work in March when DS was 11 months and have been working 3 days a week since then (nursery 2 days and my parents 1 day)

I have wanted to study for the past few years and have finally found the courage to just go for it and do it, it's only one day a week and I start tomorrow, he will be in nursery, but I'm now having a complete panic that 4 full days away from him is too much am I being silly? Will he be okay without me for that much? Will we still keep the same bond we do now??

I don't know why it's only just hit me now, but any insight would be appreciated!

He'll be fine! My 18 month old has recently started nursery 4 days (up from 3) and I feel like the three days I have with him are better now - I'm a lot more present and we have much more to pack in to those days.

Also a lone parent here.

@Divgirl2 aww thanks so much!! That makes me feel better!

He will be fine. You question whether your bond will be the same by study for 4 days a week which I find a bit offensive. I've had to be work 4 days a week since DD was 9 months old, I had no choice about it. It has not affected our bond at all and it is horrible to think people think it would!

My DS1 was full time at nursery from 5 months (no choice had to go back to work also a single mum at the time) he loved it and loved his key workers but it never had any impact on our bond.

He's now 7 and we're super close. Sometimes I feel a bit sad that special relationship we had as a single mum and kid won't be quite the same for his siblings.

He'll be absolutely fine - don't panic!
My DS is almost 18months and has been in full time nursery (5 full days a week, 7.30am until 5pm) since 11months. DP and I have to work full time to pay bills, mortgage (& childcare!!) and DS absolutely loves it. Key workers are great and he always loves coming home for lots of mummy cuddles