Uncomfortable with inlaws handling baby

[Sazziebaz]

Hello,

I feel uncomfortable when my 2 month old baby is passed around my in laws and can’t seem to relax. I’m not quite sure why I feel like this as I don’t feel like this with any of our friends. Normally I voluntarily hand my baby over to friends when they visit. I feel quite guilty for feeling like this and not totally sure what the reason for this. Has anyone else experienced this and if so, how do you deal with it?

Take a deep breath and leave the room if you feel your anxiety rising. It's a strange one isn't it? To all of a sudden not trust the IL's

I had this with mine but more so because MIL insisted on resting DS on her chest so as he could "hear her heartbeat" which I felt was totally unnecessary as she was trying to bond with him in a way that I felt only DH and myself should - but that's a whole other story! Kissing him on the lips at that stage also made me feel really uncomfortable as well as I just don't think it's necessary.

I had to remind myself that they love him and are excited he's here, he is their family (regardless of how they make me feel at times), they know what they were doing, that he was safe when being held by them and would tell myself it's ok, we'll be leaving again soon etc. over time it gets easier + you'll become more confident in expressing what you are and aren't comfortable with (should things escalate)

Good luck !