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HELP! New baby is a cling on!

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oliveoil · 22/09/2004 14:02

dd2 is 4 weeks old on Friday and hates being put down. Hates the baby gym and her bouncy chair thing and cries as soon as she is put in them, to stop the minute you pick her up. Wouldn't be that bothered but I have a toddler who is nearly 2 and has cottoned on that whinging gets you cuddles so I now have 2 of them whining at me, getting a bit fed up with it.

dO they grow out of it or is there something I have to do to 'harden' her up? Seems a bit mean when she is so young though to withhold cuddles.

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Papillon · 22/09/2004 14:05

get a sling, they are invaluable and then you will have your arms back and she gets to be close to you.

secur · 22/09/2004 14:08

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oliveoil · 22/09/2004 14:10

But I think the sling might annoy dd1 even more as she would still think the baby was still getting cuddles. But I would be able to play with her I suppose. Hmmmmm.

Secur - yes, for want of a better word, it is shit at the mo, very tired and fed up, am crossing off September and hoping things will improve soon

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Papillon · 22/09/2004 14:11

ye... sympathies to you oliveoil....

A sling is good for inside the house and outside. It really is the best baby equipment we have and has been the most used. MY dd loves the sling.

suzywong · 22/09/2004 14:12

I second the sling idea, and a bit of hardening up, but only a bit. Only because when there are two of them whining at you it is a recipe for going mental.

Do you reckon you could get her to lie still for a bit under a mobile or something to gaze up at?

( I had to toughen up a bit with ds2 'cos DH reminded me that with ds1 at that age I asked him to stop work (in his home office) and come and watch the baby lying happily while I went to the loo incase he suddenly got lonely - slightly different I know but you see what I mean)

Papillon · 22/09/2004 14:14

I would imagine (cannot say for sure) but if your dd1 saw her in the sling lots adn saw that you had time to play with her then she may well get used to the idea.. plus she would be able to see the baby as much and it would be mroe an item attached to your body

My sling is just a big strip of material which i find versatile but there loads out there to chose from... A baby bjorn type sling/carrier is good for the first 6 months... my sling can be used for years if required.

Papillon · 22/09/2004 14:15

my baby liked wind chimes that she could bat at... anything with noise is generally popular...

i will shut up now

suzywong · 22/09/2004 14:20

yes that's it Pap wind chimes, I used to lie them on the bed looking up at the wind chimes hanging from the bow window frame and give them a jiggle and then nip out and do something. When they got to about 3/4 months I used to loop one end of a cord round their wrist so they could jiggle it themselves.

Didn't mean I could get away for very long but it did make a difference.

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oliveoil · 22/09/2004 14:20

The baby gym thing has a mobile over it but it doesn't seem to please her. She has woken up for a feed now so I will have to go and sort her out, will be back later.

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suzywong · 22/09/2004 14:23

OK here's another one that just happened to work for me: big bold Lamaze type geometric designs printed out on squares of paper and stuck on the wall. Used to stare at them for minutes rather than seconds.

And if all else fails just take pride in the fact that she LOVES you so much she cannot bear to be without you......awwwwww.......arrrrrrgh!

sponge · 22/09/2004 14:26

I think she's probably a bit young to get much out of the baby gym. Ds is 7 weeks and has only just started paying attention to it and it still only keeps him happy for about 10 minutes if we're lucky.
He also likes to be cuddled and will wake up the second I put him down even if he's been fast asleep in my arms.
I found the first 4 weeks really tough but it is getting easier now as he is awake without crying for longer periods, smiling and cooing a bit which is more fun, and dd is getting more used to him and less jealous although she is still looking for attention getting tactics where possible (she's 4 so quite creative in this regard!). Hang in there.

Papillon · 22/09/2004 14:26

i used to use hands and wrists fo rthe wind chimes. Also soft cubes or balls hung up while you are in the bathroom on a clothing horse. She loved that adn bells.

yurtgirl · 22/09/2004 14:31

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secur · 22/09/2004 14:34

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Marina · 22/09/2004 14:40

It does pass although I do also think some children are more clingy by basic disposition. Dd (14 months) was a big Klingon when tiny, outgrew it, but now she is still not walking but very keen to see things like cookers she has reverted to handbag mode.
Think yurtgirl's idea of a sling for you and a sling for dd1 and her favourite toy is a great one.
Sympathies oliveoil, stereophonic whingeing is the pits

MarmaladeSun · 22/09/2004 14:54

Suzywong...I'm right there with you about going to the loo when you have a klingon. You know the constipated stage after you've had a baby? Well, couple that with a perineal tear and really bad piles and you have a recipe for disaster. When DD was a couple of weeks old I sat on the loo with her in a sling for an HOUR trying to go, as there was no way I could concentrate on the 'job in hand' with her crying the house down!

MarmaladeSun · 22/09/2004 14:55

Managed it in the end though

Papillon · 22/09/2004 15:14

yes yurtgirl those slings for kids are too cute... for sleeping problems you could start a thread. But if you bf then trying once a week or when it looks possible you try to put them down nearly asleep adn progress that way until they learn to go to sleep themselves

secur I would not leave my baby to cry like that.. especially if you use a sling lots. But that is me... I feel uncomfortable with that personally as I am into the attached parenting belief.

suzywong · 22/09/2004 15:29

OMG your poor woman MS! There is no dignity in post partum constipation.

(while we are sharing, and while OO is feeding bub, I had to use a suppository to clear up my trouble after ds1 was born. It kicked in just as my whole family turned up on the doorstep for a visit and the bathroom was right next to the kitchen. No dignity at all)

anyway about OO's dd......

sweetkitty · 22/09/2004 15:55

OO - I got a Cling On too. I have to admit I do leave her crying sometimes to go the loo, quickly make a sarnie and stuff it down my throat. She hates her bouncy chair and her playgym, she's 9 weeks now and doesn't seem interested in toys at all.

secur · 22/09/2004 16:02

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Papillon · 22/09/2004 16:20

I am sorry Secur I did not connect with your sensitivity with regard to the PND and crying babies. I did post what I wrote with some hesitation because I did not want to offend, but rather say that me, I am not comfortable with it myself and felt that I wanted to post. I do understand the need to run down the other end of the house but don´t have a garden to escape to though, and the length of time for me not give any point for leaving one child in the house and another outside... hence a sling. For me though leaving a baby would be even if I was feeling down. Cos it does not make happy feelings for a baby either. I would be trying to get support. I also feel that I did not see that oliveoil mention that she had any pnd and so when you said about leaving your baby to cry it, ...was for the reasons you just posted? So that is why I felt abit concerned. Being sensitive is to me also being honest and respectful as much as possible and I have never meant you offence Secur. Merely commenting that I do not totally agree. Are not papillon´s allowed to do that?!

Papillon · 22/09/2004 16:50

Apologies also oliveoil for otherwise nice sharing of information

sweetkitty · 22/09/2004 17:09

For me it is so distressing when you have fed them, changed them, comforted them and they are still flaying around and howling in your ear. I say to her "Abbie tell Mummy whats wrong even though I know she can't" it is so frustrating.

secur · 22/09/2004 18:52

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