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Am I doing enough for/with my 11 month old?

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surreygirl1987 · 08/09/2019 20:23

My little boy is awesome (if very hard work!!) But I found maternity leave quite a chore and struggled to keep him occupied. I took him to a mum and baby class most mornings, and out to the suoermarket or for a walk etc most afternoons. I found the classes stressful as he was the 'difficult' baby, but needed something to fill the day.

But now he has recently started going to nursery 3 full days a week while I'm at work. This means I only have 2.5 days alone with him, plus 1.5 days where my husband is also around. this has been going brilliantly for the past few weeks that I've been back at work!

However, now that he's in nursery... should I still be taking him to mother and baby classes and playgroups? I am probably in the minority here but I find those places really hard work and quite stressful! I took him on mat leave so that he would have some sort of interaction with other babies but now I'm wondering if he needs it if he's in nursery 3 days a week? I'm thinking about starting swimming classes or baby sensory or going to rhyme time... but hes SO loud and enegetic and doesn't sit peacefully like other babies so I'm basically just trying to keep him happy and quiet and occupied with something and stressing out that he's going to throw a tantrum if he can't so something he wants (he's very willfull and what some call 'high needs' I think).

If this stuff will be of benefit to him then I'll take him to classes. But otherwise... is it so bad if we spend our days on trips to national trust places and hikes and doing the supermarket run and the farm and the occasional soft play? That's basically what we do most of the time - I take him out twice a day, before and after the lunch nap - and it's nice!

Please either motivate me to book classes and playgroups if you think it would be good for him, or if you think nursery is enough, please reassure me that I'm not disadvantaging him!

Many thanks for reading :)

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Ginger1982 · 08/09/2019 20:25

He'll be having plenty socialising at nursery so if you want to take him places other than classes then do it!

wishingyouluck · 08/09/2019 20:32

My son is the same, what you were doing is way more than I have ever done and what you plan to do now sounds perfect. Walks and farms etc are probably perfect for some wind down time after busy nursery days, and it's nice quality time with his parents. Swimming lessons at some point might be nice as I think it's useful, but there's no rush and you might be more up for it in a few months!

Ohwhocares · 08/09/2019 22:13

Sounds perfect already! Groups are a lifeline for me (my busy/loopy 15mth DS and a one bed flat aren't a great combination lol!) but yes stressful as he's off exploring rather than sitting peacefully! Only go if either you or your LO are massively keen, maybe add in one activity that's particularly interesting to you if you like and see how it goes, but otherwise it sounds great so nothing to worry about. Enjoy the coming months, it's such a lovely age! 😊

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BridgeFarmKefir · 08/09/2019 22:26

You've just described my 11mo DD. I was taking her to lots of classes but over summer they stopped and had become increasingly pointless as all she wanted to do was roam around anyway.

I'm about to go back to work and I think we'll carry on swimming as she loves it and it wears her out. Maybe try that. But otherwise don't feel like you have to take your DS to anything. Go to one off stuff when you feel up to it (rhymetime, softplay etc) and otherwise just spend time together. Good luck!

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