Since my husband left and has a new gf my kids use the gf in an attempt to hurt me when they get told off or don't get their own way, they say stuff like 'I wish xxxxx was my mum'
'Xxxxx lets her daughter do this and that and she buys her this and that'
It really upsets me that in viewed as the boring and harsh parent ( obv they need discipline because the children's behaviour is through the roof since he left and it's been difficult) and he and her are the nicer nice fun people.
They have only met her a handful of times but I know it's only gonna her worse when he starts having her around them. I feel like I'm gonna lose my kids to them. It's actually making me suicidal that I have to do the main stuff for the kids, cooking and Cleaning for them and taking then to school and all the boring hard stuff and he gets to just do fun stuff. I feel really resentful. How can I stop my kids from trying to use the gf to upset me? It's be older ones who do it who are 12 and 13 ( both girls)
My 7 year old daughter is the opposite though, every time I said dad is coming she screams and shouts that she doesn't want to go out with him and I ask her why is that but she just says it's because it takes them to boring places but the thing is he doesn't, he drives so takes them to nice parks ect where as I'm the boring one who doesn't drive so can't do it so all I'm thinking of is, is there sone underlying Feelings that she can't express so she's using the boring things because she can't express herself? Any advice how to deal with this will be appreciated!