My lovely daughter has changed and I don't recognise her

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Just that really, my lovely, funny nearly 15yo DD, has gone, only to replaced by a sullen, moody teenager.

DD, who was once, funny, helpful and wanted to join in, laughed and was kind her DB. Now, NEVER leaves her room, can't possibly do homework, make up, hair without her phone in her hand, listens to crap music and slobs about in her trackies!

This isn't my girl. I feel a little bit bereft.

I've learnt from MN to keep telling myself that's its only a phase and we'll laugh about it one day, but good folk in my phone please, please tell me it won't last forever!t

Mines just got up, I can hear her pottering. I'm now getting anxious about what going to happen. Will she kick off? Be horrible to her little brother and cause a row, demand we do something today (why though I don't know as she cant stand us and is obnoxious and always wants to come straight home again), request I make her breakfast whilst she slobs on the settee? Or will she be a cheery ray of sunshine until someone breathes in the wrong direction? I live on eggshells.

Oh My God...I could have written half of these posts when dd was 13. I had 5 years of it. It stemmed to an awful hatred of secondary school which conflicted with an academic self-image. She is a clever wee thing but not suited to the current education system. Anyway. She was vile to me. Fine with dad. She hit 18 and within a week started being pleasant at mealtimes. She'd decided not to go to uni and not to stress about her A levels and it removed her internal stress. That was in January. She has just sulked because we were planning on a few days at the seaside without her! We thought she wouldn't want to come, so we are now having a few days in Filey with our lovely girl. They do come back...even though it feels like they won't. Don't question what you've done wrong (we all do that) just breathe deep and think about what they might be going through. It'll come good

Well we've talked and we've agreed that we're going to have a night together every week, she agrees that she's needs to get out of her room more, so one night a week is our night. DH is a postie and goes to bed early, so I'll get DS to bed and then watch a film/TV programme together.

She made lunch for us all and we've laughed and been silly, it's been a good day.

Love to you all, it's bloody hard this parenting malarkey

I was a hideous teenager, just awful. Lovely up until I hit puberty at 12, Mum said I just seemed to transform into a monster over night. I really did give my Mum hell. Grew out of it by the time I was 17.

I was that 15 year old girl. A horrible teenager to say the least! I'm 21 now and my and mum are best friends. We speak every day (I live in my own home now) and would do anything for each other. Probably went back to normal around 17. My little sister has started puberty early and is becoming a mini teenage me. Totally normal and does pass!

It may just be completely normal; hormones and all that (I was bloody awful at 15!)

But as a social worker (that makes me a very cautious mum) just be sure it’s nothing untoward; there’s a lot of internet bullying and internet grooming going on and I’d be worried about her being on her phone all the time in her bedroom. Just something to think about.