Sibling?

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My first is 18 months and a total handful from the start. Or I wonder if I have just found it all really hard as I was so under prepared. Anyway, I'm
Ashamed to say it's really put me off having another one.. Ever. But I'd love him to have a sibling. What on earth do I do. I'll forever be thinking what if I don't, but I have really found it so incredibly difficult with my First.

I've heard the advice never to have another child for your first as they may not even get along. Always do it for yourself. 18 months is still young. Some parents are ready at this age. Some aren't. Maybe you need more time. Maybe you'll be happy with an only! At the end of it all you don't need to make a decision today. From your post I would say not right now. But only you know how you feel!

I always knew I wanted more than one, but my first was waaaaay more difficult than I imagined a baby could be! So for ages I couldn't even think about another. Then she turned into a lovely toddler, I got my sleep back, I went back to the gym, part time work, and my physical and mental health got back to normal! Then one day I suddenly felt ready, my husband and I spoke about it then a few months later started trying, got pregnant and baby number 2 was born when number 1 was 3 yrs 2 months. 15 months seems really young to me!

I think that's really good advice from pp, don't feel you owe your first born a sibling. That goes for the timing too, if you do decide to have another there are pros and cons of big and small ages gaps, it's not always the closer the better.

It's still early days. My DS is a bit older and I think I'd like to have another baby but he's a real handful and also enormous fun at the moment so we're going to enjoy it now and think about it in maybe 6-12 months.

I was sick a lot in pregnancy (not HG) and not sure how I could manage a rowdy toddler with no sense and vomming 3 times a day!