Putting baby upstairs?

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Hey,

I have an 8 week old baby EBF, who at the moment sleeps downstairs with us at night till we go up to bed about 10-11pm. For the last 3 weeks she has gone to sleep from 8-8.30pm and sleeps anywhere up to 2/3/4 and occasionally 5 am (!) I was wondering whether to put her up in our room after her bath at 8pm because she’s getting a little disturbed down with us- we talk quietly have lights low and tv low but can tell she’s fidgeting when there’s a bit of noise. I know guidelines say to keep them with you but I wondered when other people moved there’s? It’s my second baby and I think I moved my first baby around 8/9 weeks, but can’t remember!

I’m just wanting People’s thoughts this time round. Thank you 😊

Fair enough.
Personally I think suggesting someone does something that carries a “mild to moderate
risk because “you know your baby best” is extremely irresponsible. Particularly when you don’t know what other risk factors are in play.

My husband bought me a kindle paperwhite so I went to bed with her and could read for a couple of hours without disturbing her

Mine is a 1 bed flat so quite small, he slept in his own room from 2 weeks old as either of us were sleeping properly when he was in with us. He slept in a Moses pushchair until he was 5 months old so we used to park him in the bedroom whilst he slept and whilst we were in the living room, not recommended I know.... No blankets , checking regularly, he's almost 18 months now...

Mine was 5 weeks when we moved her upstairs - she’d barely sleep all day because of noise/light and was beside herself by 6pm. Bath, bottle in dark room and white noise was the only way to avoid an evening of screaming.

Even now at nearly 10 months she’s a fruit loop if not in bed by 6.30pm, and can’t nap when she knows something more exciting is going on.

We did at about weeks, as she was getting disturbed downstaies with us, then at 12weeks she moved into her own room for bedtime.

You know you baby and can judge the risks

I obviously didn’t read the right books as all mine slept in their own rooms from the word go both at night and for any naps at home. They’re all good sleepers and it never caused any issues.

I think the earlier you instil a bed time the easier it is to maintain it but you have to do what you’re comfortable with. Thankfully I didn’t have access to all this online information back then so just did what felt right to me.

“Thankfully I didn’t have access to all this online information back then so just did what felt right to me.”

Yep. Great that you didn’t know about the guidelines that helped to drastically reduce cot death.,,

You know you baby and can judge the risks
That's not how SIDS works.

I think DD was about four months when we started putting her down and then coming back downstairs. I was comfortable with that level of risk given we were low risk for SIDs in every other way, but it's a very personal thing.

Prior to that, I just went up with her at 9 or whenever and read or watched TV quietly while she slept.

Other countries definitely do have the 6 months room sharing advice. Some advise to room share for a year. What other countries don't have is the insistence that it applies to all sleeps including early evening sleep and naps, just the baby's main sleeping location for the largest portion of the night.

Which incidentally isn't even NHS or RoSPA advice either, it is only Lullaby Trust which advises that.

We are still semi room sharing at 7 months, though. She goes to sleep in her own room at 7, and then after the first wakeup at usually 3, I often stay in her room with her as there's a double bed in there and it's easier than dragging myself back through to my own room after feeding her! And that bed has unicorn bed sheets 🦄

@burritofan

That's not how SIDS works

I meant each parent can judge the risks based on other SIDS risk factors in their lives and make a decision on whether to take the 'risk' of putting them in their own room/asleep on their own.

As others have said, tje guidance shows tjat if there are no othe rrisk factors present the risk of SIDS is very low

I am a guideline follower but I find it disgusting how people jump on posters asking for advice on here. You all know who you are. Remember how you all felt as first time mums. Have a look in the mirror, and don't be such nasty bastards all of the time. A poster asking whether they can pop their baby upstairs for an hour or 2 isn't asking whether it's ok to test their latest score on their newborn. Give your heads a wobble. If you don't believe in it, just say "the guidelines say xyz". And then walk away. Don't read between the lines of the OPs post and think threat she wants to kill her child.

@BertrandRussell sometimes too much information isn’t helpful is all I meant. You can do everything perfectly and still be affected by SIDS.