14 year old daughter

[Yellowshirt]

Me and my wife are divorcing.
My 14 year old daughter tonight told me my tv is rubbish. It's just freeview. My shower is rubbish despite it just being an every day shower and also her bed and the sofa are uncomfortable and so she would rather spend the weekend in the luxury of her grandparents company rather than spend the time with me.
I'm now just about ready to give up as I've had 12 months of this negativity now.
She then started lecturing me about an email I had supposedly sent her mother accusing her of abandoning her daughter which is just a lie.
Where do I go from here.
I could scream right now. I just can't handle it

Sounds awful. Could she be testing you to see if you’ll push her away? Tell her how much she means to you, that you’re sorry that she’s struggling with her surroundings, but it’s the best that’s on offer right now.
I hope you can find a way forward, it sounds hard on you both.

Sounds like a typical teenager.

I've told her it's the best I've got right now and that I love her but nothing seems good enough anymore

Typical teenager

How about you just say to her"you sound disappointed. What could we do to make our time together more enjoyable?'

Try to see if she'll open up a bit rather than sneering over your circumstances. It can't be an easy process for her either.

In terms of the email you could say ' I feel very upset and, if I am honest, cross that despite me telling you otherwise you don't believe me about that to your sending your mum.'

Then leave her to think on it.