My baby's colic and I'm going crazy

[Crimetv1]

I feel I need some words off reason because right now I am crying along with my baby since 1pm he has been crying with maybe a ten minute nap and it's now 8:22pm got to the point I did a poo with my son in my arms because he was crying I cannot leave him to cry it's such a painful cry and then he starts to cough he's one month now and I feel completely useless nothing I do settles him I've done massage, colic drops, anti colic bottles, burping, nappy change, rocking, singing, feed, music, baby wrap attached to me that was the ten minute nap he had, I feel like I need some conversation for my sanity I have to admit today was the worse so far as there's no break in between it's continues screaming I know he can't help it poor thing this what makes me cry because I should be patient but after 7 hours I'm starting to cry aswell.

Any parents out there similar situations please I need story's is there a light near soon? Need to distract myself and feel like a normal mum I can't even get out the house and meet people the amount off friends I have loss because I'm a parent it's the isolation as well I know mental health is important but sometimes you can't stop things that effect your well-being it's just life. Arhhhh parents lets have a good chat 😅😅😅😅 as you can see one stressed mummy

I can relate to this! My baby is 7 weeks old on Saturday and it was has been a huge life change for me and my husband. He would scream for hours at around 3/4weeks old. It's getting much better though now. We have been giving infacol before every feed and also gaviscon due to suspected reflux. We also are getting to know him so much better and realise a lot of his upset is due to tiredness so as soon as he gets upset and he's been fed and changed it's time to nap. White noise turned up really loud on my phone really calms him down too so maybe worth trying if you haven't already.

It's definitely about finding out what works for your baby. We still had stressful days where I want to cry but it's such a difference from a few weeks ago. You are not alone!

How old is lo? Sometimes it takes some babies longer to get into a good feeding routine than others. I would go to the gp and ask to try gaviscon.

When you say you’ve tried massage and winding, have you tried cycling lo’s legs? White noise can be very soothing.

It does get easier! Have you got any family that can step in do you can just have a shower and a cuppa?

Have you considered that they might have reflux due to an allergy to milk, Cows Milk Protein allergy?

Can make them very uncomfortable. Some groups on facebook are very helpful and might be worth a doctors appointment to query trying dairy free formula (if formula fed) or try a dairy free diet if BF. Hope this helps. You are not alone🤗

I totally sympathise. My little girl was awful with colic and reflux for a long time.
Is there anyone/parent /partner/friend who can step in and give you a break? Even a walk round the block, a shower, a cuppa?
You should definitely get to your GP, have a chat about the colic, they might be able to try something? And have a chat about how you feel.
If it's any consolation I felt so lonely for the first wee while, but it really really did get better after we all settled into life and routine.

Mine had silent reflux they wouldn't listen. It was utter hell...

It is the most difficult time as a parent of a baby if they have colic and there seems no end to it at times! There is though honestly !
A relative suggested coleif to me which having tried everything else (found infacol etc of no use) I had nothing to lose trying it! Expensive but honestly worked very well very quickly - recommend it if you haven’t tried it.

This website is good

I remember this 😱
My son cried solidly from when he was 2 weeks old until 6 weeks, it got a bit better then and by 10 weeks he was like a different baby.
I remember feeling so lonely at night, I used to walk past my kitchen windows and think of all the other parents doing the same thing as me.
Hang in there, this too shall pass

You have my utmost sympathy.

DC#2 had this. I would sit up every night in bed holding him as that was the only way he could sleep. It was awful and I used to cry with him.

I was EBF and nothing seemed to help except gripe water. Miraculously at 11 weeks it stopped overnight. He's now 5 months and doesn't suffer at all.

I went to the doctors at one point it was so bad, and the only thing they told me is that babies grow out of it by 3 months. Little comfort at the time

It's hell and so hard to see your baby suffering. I hope it passes quickly

Sending hugs xx

Colief and MAM bottles were the only things that helped for my DS and believe me I tried everything...

Oh and I changed milk too.

I sympathise because I used to dread tea time till morning because he screamed non stop for at least 3 hours in a block then woke at least hourly from when he finally slept till morning.

A dummy isn’t on your list, but I assume you tried? Incessant crying is so hard but it will get better

Also try the 5 S’s (google it for vid) - side, suck, swaddle, sway, shh. I find a variation of this (dummy, clamping his arms to his sides so he can’t flail them, shushing and jiggling up and down) tends to help DS (8 weeks) sleep

@MyloC

Hey I haven't tried white noise I will give that ago today fingers crossed that might be the Miracle, it's good that you start to understand his routine I have his night routine set so I know when he will awake but day time is a myth to me 😅😅

@KissyThief

Hey I have tried gaviscon but made him vomit with thick mucus and yes I have done the cycle legs and he does not like his legs then turn into solid tree stumps haha

I do have family but they have their life's and children so it's a bit tricky also my partner works till 9pm so don't get home till 10ish which by that time he's a sleeping angel and I look like a massive liar hahah

I think this explains things really well

babyhintsandtips.com/doctor-tips-colic-bore-your-baby-to-sleep/

@Crimetv1 Good luck! Just make sure the white noise is really loud. The womb was a noisy place apparently!

My three dcs always had really bad wind/colic. With dc1 it was colic and lack of experience with winding. He found tummy time with a tummy time cushion with like a vibration function soothing and he was a new baby magically overnight by the time he was 3 and half months. With dc2 it was cows milk allergy and was a new baby within 24 hours after having CMA formula and being treated for eczema. Dc3 has reflux and is on gavisgon. He’s 4 and half months now and a lot easier to deal with. But he cries a lot because he’s bored and doesn’t want to be a baba!

I always did also sometimes put them on their belly to sleep. I know your not meant to because of sids but if it’s for a daytime nap you can keep an eye on them.

It does get easier and your doing an amazing job mama .

I send you all my sympathy. My son screamed all day and night for months- turned out he had silent reflux and was a bit sensitive to dairy too. I'd definitely try and get these looked into. It's unbearable and I found it ruined the first year of being a parent for me as I struggled enormously with how unhappy he was, I was miserable.

have you tried a cranial osteopath?

Ds had this. He had reflux and severe cmpi intolerance. See your GP today and ask for a referral to a paediatrician. Various different GPS fobbed me off. Only a specialist neonatal paediatrician was able to help. She was a life saver

Ps. It passes and they outgrow it

@KissyThief

Oh my you had it all with three baby's I feel
I should stop moaning now haha and that's the thing it can be soo many things a doctors don't really look into it unless your the headache insisting for more checks I have my 6 week check soon so will
Ask them because it could be more and the little munchkins can't tell us ☹️☹️☹️

@TequilaMockingbird0

I will be definitely get him checked see if he has an intolerance and yess it's really hard because you want to enjoy time with them but where the crying is so intense it makes it difficult for you and baby to enjoy and relax I'm starting to get jealous off other baby's it's got to that point instead off aww my baby I'm more stressed for trying to calm him even going out I don't want to do as I'm
Nervous if he starts you know all the dirty looks will start which will not help.

Also just to say amazing username haha 😆

@slowdownplease

I just read the article and could say 9/10 he has most off those symptoms definitely going to investigate better safe the sorry

Totally feel your pain!! My little one is now 7 weeks and this started at 2 and a half weeks. Found it so so difficult and have been close PND I think. Same as you I end up looking like a liar as my DS calms down in the pram or car seat so when we go out people see an angel. I’ve been to the doctors countless times now and they will fob you off because ‘they grow out of it’. They may well do but until then it’s hard seeing them in pain and you are suffering too. Keep going back and trying what is suggested. We are currently trying gaviscon. We also tried a cranial osteopath, can’t say whether it’s helped as we have a second session booked but worth trying right ! Infacol wasn’t useless for us, gripe water does get some burps up. I’m sure my DS has silent reflux but the silent part makes it all the harder to diagnose because he is gaining weight very well. All I can say is you know your baby and if you think something is wrong keep going back until you get the right help.

The other thing people have told me is it’ll get easier. Hard to believe but I promise it does. My DS has seemed a little better in the last 48 hours so here’s hoping and I’m also coping better with it too. You are doing a fantastic job and I promise it’ll get better. Sending hugs.

Mean to say infacol WAS useless for us ! Typed too quickly !

Check that your young one doesn’t have a tongue tie. My little one screamed for hours and was assessed and found to have a tongue tie. They had spotted at birth but didn’t refer us. Awful time and when he got it snipped he was a lot better but still needed a little ranitidine which was a life saver along with anti reflux wedges for his cot and pram