9yr Old odd behaviour

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I’m really starting to worry about my son. He can be very immature and at the same time people say he’s an old soul.

He’s always been a bit different but I always thought he’d grow out of it but now I worry he won’t.

He makes terrible decisions, like shooting his cousin straight in the eye with a nerf gun, just one example, it wasn’t malicious at all he just doesn’t think before doing anything. he gets giddy even though we’ve given him a talk before a situation to stay calm. Hes very clumsy too. He’s so smart and does brilliantly at school. At home though he runs everywhere like a toddler would. He has trouble keeping friends, people seem to fall out with him a lot and some have even hit him. I think he irritates people. He doesn’t have problems focusing on tasks, Lego for example he will sit and do an adults set for hours on end.

Does anyone have any ideas of what may be wrong or anything we can do? He’s such a lovely boy but I’m fed up with always having to nag at him especially in the holidays it feels constant.

Thank you

Have you research dyspraxia?

I just had a look and some of the things ring a bell but nothg as extreme as most of those symptoms.he does really well at school and is great at consentrating and completing tasks. He dresses extremely quickly, writes well and can tie shoelaces fine. He’s quite hyper but not all the time. He says inflammatory things to. Wind his sister up, she’s 5 and overreacts to him which makes him do it more. I wonder if does that to school mates.

Might be worth raising with school or GP, in case they can offer any advice, especially with keeping friends. I can see a bit of my DS1 in your description. He is now 12 and has got a bit better over the years.

I wouldn’t worry about it too much, I would have an informal chat with the school because sometimes they see little things that aren’t enough to say anything because sometimes it’s so context driven. But when you say your concerned too then they say let’s look into it, if you get me.

Your sons behaviour doesn’t sound really desperately unusual imo. It could just be his personality and you could just reflect with him or encourage a journal to get him to think about his decisions and relationships.