First off, apologies in advance for the rant I am about to unleash (please dont let that put you off reading the rest!!!) My 14 week old has been unsettled from outset - a bit of reflux doctor thinks!! Has been pained during feeding, doesnt sleep much in day, although improving at night, wont take bottle just breast and wont be consoled by anyone other thant me. Now I am a slight control freak so when she started to seem a little more settled at just before 12 weeks, we tried very hard to get some kind of structure as thought it might help. Packed off DD1 to grannies and just tried to put down for sleeps at certain times, feeding at fairly regular intervals, consistent bedtime with bit less rocking than before. Husband and I were astounded when it actually seemed to work a little - did half hour sleep in morning (on good day) in bed, few hours midday in pram (although it involved a lot of pushing), little nap later with bedtime settling taking about an hour tops. this also led to her sleeping through night for about 3 nights. This routine worked more or less for about 9 days, then all of a sudden started doing 5-10 mins in morning, half hour at midday, half hour later if lucky. So now very tired, bedtime a bit nightmarish and waking in night several times (for last 4-5 days). I know she might be bit uncomortable but when she wakes at these times, is not screaming in pain. Please tell me if you've experienced it, how does a baby go from about 3 hours napping, and reasonable nights sleep, to hour napping if lucky and sleep at night all over place. Feel demented. By the way I know there will be those of you who will say that 14 weeks is bit early for routine which may be so but wasnt being totally fascist about it, just thought it helped her to be a bit happier rather than constant grizzling. Also, DD 1 responded so well to a routine, i know it can really benefit them. Any similar stories of woe, tips, reassurance or witty banter to help me stop obsessing, very welcome!!!!!