Hi
My 9 YO DD lives with me and visits her dad every other weekend, we live a normal life and she is generally very content at home. She has a younger sister who she idolises and spends time with my family whom she is very close with.
She loves spending time with her dad and is always excited to go.
When she visits her dad she often doesn't want to come home, she is tearful and he says that she is scared to come home. After around 15 minutes shes back to her usual self and its like it never happened.
Often when she visits her dad he will ring me and say that DD has said things about me or something thats happened and he is concerned, i know thats vague but often the things are ridiculous.
My thoughts are DD is then worried about coming home in fear that I'm going to be cross with her, when she realises I'm not then she is fine.
What can i do about this? She is happy to go and is happy when she is at home. Shes a generally happy girl who is loved by us all. Im worried that this is a tactic to try and take her away from me but also I'm worried that he's questioning her and possibly manipulating what she saying.
Any advice would be fantastic.