Fell down stairs with 5MO

[ViVi1989]

2 weeks today we fell down the stairs (I fell down the stairs carrying my babe) and she broke her teeny femur.
we're still in hospital with her leg elevated waiting for her to be strong enough to go in a harness.

think tonight's going to be a sleepless one. the guilt, reality, fear, sadness, despair, loneliness and love is endless.

my poor baby all I want is to pick her up and cuddle her and tell her how sorry I am for letting this happen.

I'm so sorry that you both went through that.

Please please don't feel guilty. It was an accident and not your fault!

Before you know it, her leg will be fine and you can cuddle her as much as you want!

Sending hugs xx

Oh, you poor thing! I can't even imagine how you must feel. It's not your fault. It really isn't. It's shit and heart breaking but don't run yourself down with guilt too.

Lots of hugs

Oh you poor thing

It was an accident - please be kind to yourself.

You poor thing. Please know it wasn't your fault. I have burnt myself when I was a baby (still have a scar) , and my mum feels guilty but I have zero recollection of it. Hugs xx

Oh I'm sorry. I fell down the stairs with my four month old twins, luckily we were all ok but the guilt still gets me to this day.

I hope you get out of hospital soon and that you can put it behind you. Accidents happen.

I’m amazed this doesn’t happen more often. The number of close misses I had carrying both my two. I’m so sorry it happened to you. It wasn’t your fault, you are not a bad parent, please try to get some rest so you can face the next day and play with and enjoy your daughter as much as her current physical limitations allow. She will recover and won’t remember a thing. Then when she is older she will dine off the story forever.
because it feels awful now. But it will get better!

Oh my goodness OP, you poor thing. Please don't blame yourself though.

I fell down the stairs from halfway up with DD at 18m and let go and she tumbled horribly to the bottom. She turned out to be fine but it was SO hideous. I completely understand the guilt/horror/shock. It's awful. But please know that this was NOT your fault. It is incredibly common for parents to have a fall while holding the baby. You were really just very unlucky.

Sending you loads of support. This will all seem much less significant as more time passes.

It is a very common accident, I’ve at least 3 friends who did the same. You were unlucky she got hurt at all but very lucky it’s something that will heal and cause no lasting damage. It’s nobodies fault.

My 2 yo fell down the stairs and the absolute fear I experienced was unbelievable. I was literally seconds behind her trying to grab her all the whole way down.

You poor thing, accidents happened

OP, this wasn’t your fault! It’s so easily done, especially when carrying something, sleep deprived, etc etc. Lots of people have trips and falls holding their babies and most will be absolutely fine - you were just terribly unlucky.

At my old house the sink had a tiny crack in it for years. My mum was always saying she should get it replaced. One night I slipped and landed on it - it broke in half and I almost amputated my arm, right down to the bone, 2/3 of the way round. It was a fre accident and there’s no way anyone could have predicted it. I hope you’re getting some support - one of my boys spent two months in nicu and then back into paeds HDU for nearly two weeks and I had to stay with him 24/7 for that. I didn’t sleep, made myself very ill, crashed my milk supply permanently... please take care of yourself too x

Oh and when my mum was 18 months old she fell down the back step holding a milk bottle and cut off her thumb! (Clearly we are a very accident prone family 😂)

One of my boys fell down the stairs recently, I was right behind him and it was like it was in slow motion, it was unbearable. You poor things.

Im so sorry this has happened sending big hugs! I've had lots of near misses with my 8 month old. She recently fell face first off our bed, eventhough I was right there. She had a big egg on her head but was otherwise fine, but I still feel awful. You have just been very unlucky. I really hope you get to hold her soon you sound like a great Mummy and your little one will not be able to remember this, she will just have a story to tell her friends when she is older. Take care

DH fell down outside steps when DD was 5mo, he cracked his head but the baby was okay. That the baby wasn’t hurt is pure luck but my point is that it can happen to anyone any time, and it’s just an accident. Please don’t blame yourself. The injuries will heal and the lo won’t remember a thing about it. It will be a story you can tell at their 21st and look back on it as one of those things life throws at you. Try and sleep.

I fell down the stairs pregnant the other week! Wasn't even carrying a child, now have a fear of falling down the stairs. It happens to the best of us! Hope your DD is home soon 💗

Oh bless you, don't feel bad, accidents happen!! Are you OK????

Thank you to all of you for replying to me, I managed to sleep and today is a fresh day.
I am stronger again today and obviously just needed to 'wollow' a little last night after my partner went home.
it just seems endless but it will get there, she is a special baby and loving the constant attention.
I will be bum shuffling down stairs for a very very long time I can tell you that.
I didn't mean to fall but doesn't stop me reliving it and blaming myself .
thanks for all the near miss stories, it does help (if that doesn't sound too awful?!) at least I know I'm not the only one, who invented stairs anyway!?
hugs back to you lovely peeeps