New mum - am I doing something wrong?

[milly2000]

My son is now 3 weeks old and we have just got through the first week on our own since my partner has been back at work. (Long hours this week as well just to make it worse) I'm having new mum fears.
I feel like I get nothing done in the day at all! By the time I feed, change and finally settle baby (I think he has colic so it can take a long time to settle him if at all) I feel like I'm starting the process again! He also seems to only want to sleep on me which makes anything else a bit difficult.
When he does sleep I'm making sure I have everything sterilised and getting a load in the washing machine. Sometimes it gets to 3pm and I'm realising I should make myself some food!
Am I doing something wrong? Or is this typical of the newborn stage?

Completely normal honestly. Sometimes my husband would get home from work and I would still be in my pjs and not eaten anything apart from chocolate lol! Also totally normal for baby to only want to be close to you. Just savour that as it goes so quickly and now my 8 month old is too busy exploring for Mummy cuddles 😂 it is hard at the time though so make sure your partner takes over when he gets in so you can have some time to yourself. Once you feel up to it even a walk with the pram can help you to feel more human! Things will get easier, especially after around the 6 week mark! You're doing a great job x

Totally normal hun. You're doing better than I did....at 3 weeks I was still too scared to sleep upstairs at night. I used to insist we all slept downstairs in the living room (we have a nice big comfy couch thankfully!) as I was afraid to move DS from the living room
Fully aware of how bonkers that was but hey, first time mum, I was allowed be a little crazy??
Somewhere between weeks 6 and 10 I felt better, more in control, knew my shit and things started going nice n smoothly. I was getting stuff done, spending less time in my PJ's and eating properly again.
Enjoy the newborn bubble and don't be hard on yourself

How I coped with the newborn stage (obviously only works if you have one baby),

Is to get everything done when they're awake. If they're happy have them on mat, chair etc if not happy have them in the wrap.

Then when they are sleeping everything is done and you can chill/sleep/eat.

Keep going. It gets a lot easier!

Totally normal. One of mine would only settle on me for months - you could perhaps see if there is a local sling library? They help you try on a few wraps and slings, and you can hire one for a week to try out. My hired one was so great I went out and bought one after a few days! Baby loved sleeping in it and I had my hands free so was able to get a load of washing on and eat something/have a cup of tea. Might be worth a try for you.

You’re doing brilliantly! Drinking a cup of tea before it got cold or having a shower was an achievement for me in the early days!

Totally normal. My DD is 7 months now but I remember the shock of the newborn stage like it was yesterday. I remember when she was 9 weeks I put her down on the bed and started doing something else and she actually just laid there happily - until that point it was relentless as constant. She had colic too. Just grit your teeth you'll get through it. Congratulations x