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How the hell to keep newborn safe from toddler?

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Orlofina · 30/08/2019 17:55

I have a 5 week old baby and a 2 Yr old, and am at my wits end! Until a few weeks ago my little girl was the most sociable, loving little girl who would go and hug other kids in the playground if they looked sad.... she's full of evil intent and will slap, suck, scratch the baby whenever she can get a sly one in.

I'm watching them like a hawk but haven't been able to protect the baby from every swipe and feel awful about this, poor baby, and what the hell do I do?!

We have a tiny flat so no where safe to put the baby, have to take her with me whenever I leave the room, which is a pain in the ass as I need two hands. Have also done a lot to be empathetic, name DC1s emotions and let her know it's normal to feel annoyed, sad etc at the changes, but doesn't seem to be working.

People of mumsnet, give me your wise words please!

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Windydaysuponus · 30/08/2019 17:58

Travel cot?

Chitarra · 30/08/2019 17:59

This sounds like completely normal sibling jealousy and you are handling it well OP. Hang in there - it won't last forever!

Nonnymum · 30/08/2019 18:08

Carry the baby in a sling if you need to carry her , then you will have your hands free.
This phase will pass. Your toddler will be confused and feel that her sibling has taken her place. Try to give her lots of attention reassuring her you will always love her.
and try to get her involved with the baby if you can eg bring you nappies. Help bathe her tell her the baby follows her with her eyes and loves to see her. Also have you shown her photographs of herself when she was a baby? Perhaps talk with her about when she was tiny etc. Good luck it is a really hard time.

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Seeline · 30/08/2019 18:12

I used to put the toddler in the playpen....

Sunshinegirl82 · 30/08/2019 18:18

Sling for baby when up and about then bouncy chair or Moses basket inside travel cot. This too shall pass.

Emus · 30/08/2019 18:43

We bought a play pen (two actually and linked them together to make a big one). Baby went into there whenever I needed to leave the room.

Thatagain · 01/09/2019 14:30

I was in the same boat once oh I still am although they are adults now. It will not change it will get easier as they grow sibling jeliousy there is not much you can do. What I did was sing to them both don't separate them as they need to form a bond sing and dance and get dc1 involved in feeding and cleaning and lot's of playing with them both.alway's get dc1 involved. My eldest 2 there was 18 months between them and I loved every minute my DD us to kick my DS in a dubble pushchair and was always trying to get attention. They have left home now and they are like best friend's

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