Sorry if this is not the right place but I just want to scream at the mo. dd has been out with her friend all day as usual. I called her to ask if she was coming home for tea and she said she was having some later at friends house and asked me to call her back about 8ish (she's out of credit ... again!) anyway called her back and she asked if it was ok to stay the night and would dad or me drop her some clothes etc down, no problem we've done this several times before and it's only 10 mins drive away.
I rang to tell her dad was on way with her stuff and she asked could he leave it till a little later as friends mother had just popped out to shop and locked them in, I wasn't impressed but called back 5 mins later, mother still not back, phoned again 10 mins later, mother still not back by this time I was getting annoyed that they'd been locked in for this length of time. Kept calling every 5 - 10 minutes still no mother !! an hour had passed by now and I was livid.
I decided to go down to the house by this time and wait for mother to return. Got down there and the front door is locked but back door to yard is open, although there are 10 foot walls and gate to exit at least I was releived they wern't actually locked totally in the house with no escape route in an emergancy but I was still annoyed that mother would leave them alone this length of time telling them she was nipping to shop
Theres a lot more to this though, I don't like the mother and her parental skills leave a lot to be desired IMHO but I do love my dd friend to bits and have every sympathy for her and she's a lovely girl too.
Mother has 2 teenage kids, ds & dd, split from dh last yr met younger bloke in pub and before anyone knows she's pregnant. her partner is a no hoper imo, constantly steals from her is violent always splitting up and she still goes back for more. Social services are involved with the family and partner is not allowed near ds & dd and has supervised access to new baby but she's always sneeking off to see him. She often leaves the kids alone and her dd & my dd to look after baby.
My dd assured me tonight that mother had taken baby with her although it was late and dark, I saw no sign of her and had to trust what she said. I don't know the laws on leaving kids alone, I have never done it myself but I just think mother is a total prat. her kids hrdly ever have meals made and are always eating takeaway, mother never feeds my dd when she stays and I have to make sure she has enough to feed herself when she stays but her friend loves having her there so I find it hard refusing to let her stay even though I'd rather she didn't.
Mother wants my dd to go on holiday with them next yr and I've refused point blank, there is no way in this world I trust her with my daughter miles away for a week and shes not using my dd as an unpaid babysitter while she goes out all the time but I can't make my dd understand my concerns.
I'm still so angry and don't know how beest to deal with it any advice would be greatful