Toddler morning waking is chaotic

[Sunshineandsprinkles]

Bit of advice needed!

Current situation is this:
Our 2 year old is generally a good sleeper at night.
I'm the mornings, he is nearly always woken up by husband getting in the shower ready for work at 6am. We have the gro clock set to 6.15 when my husband is ready and out the shower to take him downstairs. I don't need to get up this early, neither does toddler, as work/nursery drop off is a bit later. I get myself up whilst husband takes toddler downstairs before he heads off to work.
The problem is this. Toddler knows he has to stay put until the sun comes up on his gro clock. At first, he was quite happy rolling around for those 15 minutes. Now, every morning, as soon as the shower turns on, toddler cries and whines for my husband to come and get him. This continues for the entire 15 minutes.
How do we get a more peaceful wake up?!
We could set the gro clock for 6am and I could go and get him, but he's currently used to my husband getting him, and is really attached to him- toddler would just kick off more if I got him up! I'm also due our DC2 soon, which means I'm exhausted after a night of pregnancy insomnia. So I'm reluctant to get up so early when I don't need to! Do I just suck it up?!
Toddler is currently still in a cot, hoping to make transition to a normal bed after DC2 is born. But wondering if that would make any difference or make it worse!
Sorry, bit of a lengthy one!

Can he not just watch CBeebies with a cup of milk for 15 mins whilst your husband showers?

Could your DH shower last thing at night instead?

Could you take the side off his cot now, and just add a stairgate to bedroom door.
Make his bedroom safe, and he can then play with his toys when he wakes. Just leave non small, or loud toys out of reach.

It means he can wake and occupy himself 15-30 mins. This will also be helpful with baby 2 if your busy feeding them and means less lifting him in and out of the cot

6am really isn't early for a toddler to wake. I wouldn't just leave him there upset whilst your DH is in the shower, if he wakes up whilst your husband is showering then you need to go in to him. I'm not sure you can use "he is used to my husband doing it" as an excuse not to do it, otherwise you'll never do it.

Several options here.

Either your husband showers at a different time of day, eg the evening.

You go and get your toddler at 6 - he’ll get used to it eventually.

Your husband just takes your toddler in the shower with him and they have a shower together

Your toddler watches tv for a bit

Really just think you need to go and get him up. Can you not take him back to bed with you for the 15 mins? Surely someone different (his Mum!!) getting him up is preferable to leaving him crying? It’s not like you’re a stranger is it? Also if you are expecting he is going to have quite a few changes coming up to adapt to so probably better you encourage him to start accepting a bit of change here and there.

This is a non problem really. Can husband get up and get the toddler and put him in bed with you. Then shower then take toddler downstairs, I also would put toddler into a big bed now

it might be worth you going in and telling your toddler daddy is in the shower, need to wait for the sun.

dd is just 2 and today woke at 5.45 😴 I went in and told her it's still night and I'm doing more sleeping and she needed to wait for the sun (6.10). she cried and grumbled a bit but was ok. and shouted for me when sun was up.

might be tricky with the noise from the shower, but might be worth trying.

you really don't want to start getting him yourself as soon you might be feeding, have a light sleeping baby etc and not be free to get up.

Alternative is a snack or drink and cbeebies/toy in the bathroom and dh gets him up before he showers

Its not that early or unusual for a toddler to be up at 6am 🤔 Cant you just get up with him and both get ready for the day? If you really cant deal with that then tell hubby to shower at night and wash downstairs in the morning?

Not really sure why this is a problem or chaotic really