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Co sleeping nightmare!

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Anni3getyourgun · 26/08/2019 15:19

Hi all, I have also posted this on Sleep, but hoping for more traffic and wisdom here. Apologies in advance for long post!

DD is 13 months old. She was a brilliant sleeper until she turned 6 months, and then it all went to pot. She doesn’t want feeding in the night (hasn’t since she was 3 months), doesn’t need changing and isn’t cold. She’s not ill. So I think generally the reason she cries in the night is separation anxiety, as she calms down as soon as we go to her and would happily sleep in our arms all night.

We’ve tried CC (going back in to check every 5, 10, 15 mins etc) numerous times with limited success. Generally she won’t just stop crying until picked up. Reluctantly a few months ago I brought her into our bed, and DH and I take it in turns to share with her when she wakes up, which can be any time from 10pm to 3am. This worked ok, everyone was sleeping, if not in the correct beds!

But now she’s rolling round all over the bed and fighting sleep. Last night she kept me up from 1.30am to 4.30am. I can’t just let her roll around as she’ll fall out. So I’m panic stricken until she goes back to sleep.

Anyone any advice/similar experience? What did you do? People have suggested white noise/Ewan the sheep/bed guards. Have any of these worked for any of you? I don't want to leave her to cry...

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DeadDoorpost · 26/08/2019 15:28

I think there's a sleep regression and growth spurt around 13 months. DS was the same (still is) and moves a lot but he's going through another growth spurt so he's super clingy. Either keep your routine the same and she'll settle down in her own time, or get a bed guard to make sure she doesn't roll out of bed.

seven201 · 26/08/2019 15:29

I'd get a bed guard and let her roll around personally

DontBuyANewMumCashmere · 26/08/2019 15:33

Yes, bed guard on her side, you on the other.
I carried on co-sleeping until DD was about 3.5ish? She'd start out in her bed and if she woke in the night I'd get into a double bed we had in her room.
She's 4.5 now and sleeps through unless very ill!
Good luck OP

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hormonesorDHbeingadick · 26/08/2019 15:34

Put the mattress on the floor, child proof the room and go to sleep and she will quickly fall asleep.

TheBabyAteMyBrain · 26/08/2019 15:37

Bed guards or mattress on the floor for safety, call it a montessori bed if it makes it sounds better.

Anni3getyourgun · 26/08/2019 19:36

Right, bed guard it is then! Anyone any experience of taking the sides off baby’s cot bed at this age and putting bed guard on her bed? Or too young?

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lancslass17 · 26/08/2019 19:56

We have some nights like that he has his own cot in my room. I pull it up next to my bed and put my arm in his so its round him or holding his hand, i then nod off and wake to a sleeping baby (and a sore arm) and turn over and get comfy. Half asleep ti me is better than wide awake. Xx

neverornow · 26/08/2019 20:04

Crying it out is the only thing that worked for us. It's horrible and your heart will hurt but it does work.

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