4yo asking about how babies are born!

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Just as title says my nearly 5yo DS has been very interested in my stretch marks recently. He knows about pregnancy because he remembers me being pregnant with his little brother.

Since realising that no my belly did not have to explode for him and his brother to come out he is now relentlessly questioning how do babies come out of mummies.

I'm not sure how to explain it to him in the best way?

My dd was 4.5 when her sister was born and asked same questions.
I was completely honest and said there is two ways, I may need an operation to get her out my tummy but will be looked after (she's had many serious ops... think cancer removal) so knew what operation meant.
I then said or mummy will have to push her out of my fairy (what she calls a vagina) as the baby is below my tummy.
She accepted that and didn't ask anymore until baby was here and asked which one happened!

So just tell him? Be factual and matter of fact. Babies sometimes come out of vaginas and sometimes mummies have an operation to get them out. Job done, end of story.

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I just told mine that either they came out from a little hole btwn my legs in the middle of where I poo and wee and I pushed the baby out or with an operation. They just said 'oh, okay' and went about their business. No need to overthink it.
Asking how they are made.... different conversation altogether

I would agree to being honest. DS aged 4 knows girls have vaginas (I’m sure to be corrected and told I should have said it’s vulva 😉) and boys have willies.

He hasn’t yet asked how DS2 will come out of my tummy, but I’ll explain that he comes out of my vagina and that’s why girls have them.

He heard the word puberty on the Spider-Man film and asked the staff at the holiday club. Unfortunately they didn’t know how to answer him 🤣 when it comes up again I hope he asks us and we will tell him!

I'm all for honesty, my 4 year asked, I told her she came out my girl parts (FYI she does know the proper words), she thought it was hilarious!

I’m pregnant with DC3, and my 4yo DC1 asked about how the baby is going to come out (she was present for the birth of DC2, but obviously can’t remember and was too little at the time to really comprehend).
I just told her that girls have vaginas because that’s how babies come out.
She now thinks that vaginas are magical baby chutes, and she’s so proud that she has one

Oh bless, that is so sweet. I remember my cousin's little boy saying to his mum, "Babies come out of your hole, don't they?". I also saw a TV series (set in late 1950s), a couple of years back where a little boy went up to his parents' pregnant guest and said very loudly, "You're going to have a baby - out of your vagina".

We got a book for my son and he refused to look at it, he came into our bedroom and said, "I'm not reading that!" and shoved it under our bed. He was about five then. We did tell him correct things though, or I did (dad shied away from it a bit).

Kids are smashing. They learn things all the time and we learn with them.

One of my DDs friends, both 4, told her recently. She knew I'm pregnant and just sort of accepted baby will pop out when it's bigger but her friends mum is also pregnant and her asked about how they come out so she told him and he's obsessed with telling everyone babies come out of vaginas.

My DD sat on it for a week or so then asked me if it's right, I said yes and explained in a 4 year old friendly way.... later caught her looking at her own in the mirror in utter confusion, she looked at me and said 'I just don't get it mummy, how does a baby get out of there?! It's not possible'.

There has been lots of questions since but she seems to be handling it pretty well.

You just explain how it happens, of course. My eldest has understood how babies are born since she was 2. She actually used to correct her nursery teachers who would say ‘babies come out of mummies tummies’ She used to say ‘actually they come out of their vaginas!’ She was probably 3 at the time. She’s watched birth videos since around then as well as we were preparing her for when her brother would be born (had both of them at home so she was there when he was born). It’s no big deal. Even now (she’s 6.5), she talks about the ‘dinosaur roar’ that mummies make when they are having their babies. I think just don’t make it weird and it won’t be.

I have a 4 and 5 year old, and we had a chat a year or so ago that babies come out of vaginas (or through tummies if it's a cesar). It's not a big deal 🤷🏼‍♀️

I made the mistake of telling my 4 year old babies come out a special hole and now he always talks about my special hole