Mums living away from their children

[Rachel1969]

Dear Lobe

I wrote an article a couple of weeks ago in the Daily Mail about a single father whose wife allowed him to have custody of their three daughters - it was a really moving piece and we had a huge response from our readers
Now we want to do something similar from the mothers point of view - I was about to post a message asking for help when I saw your own post.
I wonder if you would consider talking to me about your experience - I'd be happy to send you a copy of my article, put you in touch with the man I featured so you can check he was happy with the way I handled it ...
You can contact me at [email protected]
Please consider it anyway - I dod hope to hear from you soon
Rachel Halliwell

I separated from my partner 4 years ago. Together, we have 2 children- now 7 and 5. At first things were very dificult between us but somehow we always managed to put the well being of the kids first, even when things were at their worst. I then met someone else and we married 2 years ago and now have a 22 month old. The 2 older kids spend half of the time with us and half with their dad. This all sounds very straightforward but I find the days when they are not with me almost impossible. I miss them so much. I know they are safe and happy with their dad but somehow I always think that it must be so hard for them not being with their mum. I lost my mum when I was 9 so I'm sure its more about me than aboout them as they seem happy and well balanced. It is hard too having the baby as he gets mum all the time. does it get easier with the passing of time? I hope so. So little research seems to have been done into shared care families - the legal profession certainly does not neccessatily view it as being the best option but maybe sometimes it really is. i would love to hear about other mum's experience of shared care