Strangers when my baby is crying!

[BlueMoon1103]

Does anyone else get really fed up of strangers talking to and commenting on their baby crying. Normally when DS is crying it’s because he’s tired and people talking to him makes it worse as it is more stimulating and he can’t sleep! I also feel really self conscious when he’s crying and just want people to leave me alone to be honest! We’re in the supermarket and I’m trying to get him to sleep and some woman just cane over and starting asking what was wrong with him and I just wanted to tell her to FUCK OFF AND LEAVE US ALONE! It can’t just be me?!

some woman just cane over and starting asking what was wrong with him and I just wanted to tell her to FUCK OFF AND LEAVE US ALONE! It can’t just be me?!

I hear you, but a simple ‘he’s just tired’ will do just as well. It is frustrating, but please don’t feel self conscious - anyone with any sense knows babies cry sometimes, especially if they’re fighting a sleep - ignorant people aren’t worth the worry. If someone tries to chit chat with your DC while your trying to get then to sleep just say ‘he’s very tired’ and steer the pram around so he’s facing the other way.

When my baby was tiny he used to cry in shops. He didn't mind being pushed from shop to shop on the cobbles, but once we were in he'd scream bloody murder 😂 Every time, one checkout lady in particular would ask me if he was hungry Every single time!
Yeah that's right, I knew I'd forgotten something! I've been starving my baby
It actually still makes me cross now, even though I'm sure she was just trying to make conversation! Silly cow...

Every time, one checkout lady in particular would ask me if he was hungry Every single time!
Yeah that's right, I knew I'd forgotten something! I've been starving my baby

Yess! I hated this too

It’s really annoying. I find my baby crying in public really stressful so people commenting on it really doesn’t help. ‘Ooh someone’s hungry!’ As if I’d just leave my hungry baby crying. No he’s not I’ve just fed him, he’s overtired/bored/overwhelmed etc. And I hate it when they’re on the verge of going to sleep and someone pokes their head in the pram and starts talking to them.

I do this 😂 and have had it done to me but it never bothered me.

If I'm out with DC and they comment on a crying baby I would usually say, 'he/she might just be ready for some lunch' or something along those lines.

I'm not assuming you're starving your child! It's just a passing comment.

I’m glad it’s not just me! It drives me nuts!

Urgh, yes!!

I had a crier. DD would be screaming in her pram and I’d have no choice but to leave her as I couldn’t carry her home. Several passers by would say stuff like ‘Someone’s not happy’ or ‘ she’s got a pair of lungs on her’. Mums at groups would stare like they’ve never heard a baby crying before. My personal favourite ‘Why is she crying’.

A sympathetic ‘I know how you feel’ smile is all that’s needed.

How old is your baby?

It does get easier as they get older because you stop caring what everyone things. I don’t get self conscious if DD (13 months) cries in public now whereas it used to have me on the verge of a panic attack in her colic days.

They are probably just trying to be nice. I don't think they deserve to be told to fuck off, no.

Mine was like this when tired; I used a Snoozeshade and covered her up, so even the most well-meaning of old ladies couldn’t misinterpret the sleeping baby logo on the front (you would think....)

Oh I feel really bad now .

I remember being on a long train journey in the quiet coach with a baby in the same carriage that screamed blue murder for three hours non stop. The business people around me were quite passive aggressive and the mother was being made to feel quite uncomfortable. As I was stretching my legs, I smiled at her sympathetically and said “it must feel like a really long journey for you.” and made some small talk, asked if it was his first trip, if they were going on holiday, to visit family etc. I only chatted for a minute tops and was just trying to be kind and sympathetic but the Mum swung the baby away from me and made it clear she didn’t want to engage. I see know it was completely the wrong thing to do. I was in my 20s at the time and maybe a bit naive. In future, I’ll just ignore.

I had a crying baby on a train. (Iwas coming back from the hospital and can't remember exactly what we did that day but it is likely he had eye drops, was swaddled, had to wait around, had lights shone in his eyes. ) A Man said can i keep the baby quiet. He soon regretted it as the whole carriage turned on him.