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emmy1997 · 19/08/2019 12:25

Hi everyone. Long story.

DP and I have been together 4 years, we have a gorgeous DS who is 14 months.

We argue ALOT, it gets to the point where he grabs me and lightly punches me, gets into my face and pulls my hair, pushes me over etc.
A month 1/2 a go I told my friend of our arguing and how he slapped me and pushed me over and left a giant bruise on my wrist and face, he also broke my phone by putting it into the sink and letting water go on it. Police arrested him and he was let off with a warning. SS were called again and we have been put on a CIN plan.
He has a massive temper and his horrible, feel like I'm walking on eggs crumbs. We had another massive argument yesterday and smacked me, right in front of DS :(
His parents are completely on my side about wanting to leave due to his behaviour and fully understand BUT.
I have MH issues and can be a tad unorganised and messy. He takes photos when the house isn't perfect, videos me when I'm angry ( never when he is) he grabs my phone off me constantly, puts me down.
I told him today that I'm viewing a flat tomorrow, he's threatened to quit his job, call the police that I'm neglecting DS and take me to court for full custody of our son as he doesn't want 50/50 custody.
As a SAHM he provides everything for me, which he likes to remind me every second of the day, it's his not ours as I don't pay for anything. Social worker has noticed that he makes horrible comments towards me and is worried. He uses his mental heath as an excuse to be horrible in the mornings where it's sometimes unbearable.

I have no idea what to do I'm so anxious. I'm 22 with bipolar disorder, depression. I regularly take my tablets, ingage in services and I always go to baby groups and mummy groups, DS is very well looked after, such a happy chap.
I'm scared DP will take me to court and win as he's got friends who is a lawyer and people behind him, I have no-one, I'm fostered so I don't speak to my family anymore because of DP. Bad I know. His mother supports me 100% and calls him silly. I've said to her, DP and everyone else. I'd never stop them from seeing DS I just don't want to live with DP anymore.
Another thing. He always called me the victim and takes the piss out of me saying I'm a typical women.

Anyone help please
Thank you and I'm so sorry it's so long.

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Littlefish · 19/08/2019 12:28

Talk to your social worker and tell him/her everything. You are in an abusive relationship and your child is at risk. You need to end your relationship for your and your child's sake.

emmy1997 · 19/08/2019 12:32

I will, I know I am, he's so good at twisting things though like he can charm his way out of anything. I am and I want too but I'm fearful of him taking my DS away when I do everything for him and DP does nothing

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Littlefish · 19/08/2019 12:40

Have you reported his violence towards you, to the police, Women's Aid or GP? Do you have low photographic evidence?

What has the social worker said?

emmy1997 · 19/08/2019 13:07

I reported to the police but because there wasn't any clear evidence the bruises were from him they haven't done anything, same with GP, social worker said we need to have a meeting

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emmy1997 · 19/08/2019 13:08

Might I add, when I do take pictures for evidence as he lies about it, he goes on my phone and deletes the images.

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