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Husband not doing enough

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Bobbelle · 17/08/2019 09:05

I really don't know what to do here. My husband and I have an 8 month old DS. The main issue I have is my husband will not get out of bed in the mornings. He has never once got up with DS so I can sleep (even when DS was a terrible sleeper and I would be in tears from exhaustion and repeatedly asked him to get up any morning with him he never).
So I end up getting up every morning with DS and the taking care or him and 2 cats and a dog while DH sleeps in. He does have a stressful job but at the moment is working from home so starts whenever he wakes up (which means he gets and and goes straight to work without spending time with DS). This morning one of the cats must have been well and they had and accident. I told him this had happened and then had to ask him to go down and tidy it whole I got DS ready. He did that but when I got downstairs I seen another accident and shouted (nicely) up the stairs that there was another. He responded 'oh for f@@ks sake' and stayed in his bed. They left me to get breakfast for DS, feed 3 pets and clean the mess.
DH got up about half and hour later and when I told him I was annoyed because he should have got up he shouted and swore at me and went back to bed again.

This isn't just today (the pet accident is but the rest isn't), he never gets up in the morning and stays up late playing games or watching TV and then will say I need to wake him up so he is awake in the morning. I am unreasonable to expect him just to get up and be a family man rather than lying there like a teenager?

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Hairwizard · 17/08/2019 10:37

Hes a lazy fucker who needs his arse kicking into touch. Bigtime.
Time to get tough and stop doing everything yourself its not fair to you. Id be dropping ds onto bed beside him in the morning then going downstairs and enjoying a hot coffee in peace for a start.

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Bobbelle · 17/08/2019 11:02

Thanks @hairwizard. That's my worry is that he is actually just a lazy arsehole and I have never noticed until we had DS.
He most certainly isn't lazy in other aspects of his life - he works very hard at his job and in the garden. But it seems to be only these things and nothing else he will really strive at.... Or even get out his bed. He is still there now Confused

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Bobbelle · 17/08/2019 11:04

Oh, I used to put DS in with him while I went for a shower in the mornings but I stopped as I was worried he would fall asleep on him or DS would roll out of bed. He said 'you need you to give me time to wake up before you leave DS in bed with me' Shock

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Hairwizard · 17/08/2019 11:56

Leave ds in with him then take yourself out for the day. No giving him time to wake . Do you get time to wake before going to see to him?? Just because he works hard at his job its not an excuse to shirk his responsibilities at home. Not fair to leave everything to you. You need a break too.

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