Losing my s>*# with 1 year old

[booklover164]

My DS is one next week. He is driving me around the bend when I put him down to sleep at night and for his naps. He is pulling himself up, standing and generally pissing around. I am at my absolute wits' end with him and dreading whenever he goes into his cot. This is a relatively new occurrence. Any tips would be gratefully received!

My little girl is 13 months old and has been doing that for the last 2 months, never really thought of it as a problem. She has a little twenty min/half an hour rolling round, standing up, falling over and then lays down and goes asleep. How long is it taking him to fall asleep?

Can you put him in and then leave? My daughter used to do this but she'd mess around for a bit and then lay down and go to sleep.

He's probably about to learn to walk. How did you usually get him to sleep before this?

🤣🤣🤣 wait till he's 2 and climbing out the cot! X

Does he also want you to cart him around while he imperiously points at things? Have tantrums when you won’t let him chew potentially fatal items? Skip naps and wake up in the night for no reason? Refuse food when was previously eating really well?

It is such a tough age but without meaning to sound like a dick... he’s being a perfect baby! Developmentally doing everything he’s meant to do!

Give him lots of practise standing (and walking holding on if he’s at that stage) and wait it out. This too shall pass!

Ah. The sleep thing will pass soon enough, whether you do something about it or not, I think. Sorry, I know that’s not very helpful.

Looking back (mine are 7 and 18 months now) I think it’s best to embrace the opportunity () to practise calm in the face of infuriating behaviour. I definitely don’t always manage to achieve that myself btw! But it is my aim. Sometimes I pretend I am role modelling good parenting for an invisible audience. Sometimes I vocalise my annoyance a bit (at that age you can still say “blimey, but you’re irksome tonight” in a perfectly loving tone of voice and no harm is done). Sometimes deep breaths, sometimes deciding bedtime doesn’t matter enough to battle about, sometimes walking away and letting them screech alone for a few moments.

Mainly I’ve learned that the times I feel most stressed and angered are the times when really I have no control over the situation. I think that’s why bedtime pissing about it so irritating, you literally can’t make them stay lying down and go the fuck to sleep. So reminding myself that I can’t control the situation but I can control my actions, is a helpful thing for me to do when I recognise that this is what’s happening.

Hope the bedtime thing gets better soon.

He's a one year old. They piss about! To be honest, when I go to bed I quite often piss about myself rather than lie straight down and go to sleep because it's sleep time. He sounds like a cheeky monkey to me. Enjoy him because in the blink of an eye he'll be grunting at you at leaving his pubes all over your shower!

I’m guessing he’s just excited to use his new found standing powers 😂

Dd is 15 months and does the same. I feed her give her a kiss and put her down for bed. She spends the next 30 minutes/ hour pulling herself up rolling around, reading and eating the bars.

Then within seconds she'll just go to sleep. I don't let myself get worked up, shes happy and I figure I wouldn't go right to sleep if I wasn't tired so why should she. If he's happy just leave the room and let him get on with it :)

Thanks everyone

@thebakerwithboobs 😂😂

Pleased to know I'm not the only one. I guess I'm concerned about him hurting himself on the cot so I stay in there with him but actually leaving him alone would be the least reinforcing thing to do.

He's just learnt to stand up and has taken a few steps with the walker so I imagine walking will be next on the list.

Thanks for the reassurance ☺️