Ds11 and dd8 3rd???

[Tan87]

Hi I’m 32 with two amazing children 11 and 8, but I can’t stop thinking about having a third. Am I mad??? Has anyone else had another baby after such big age gaps and lived to tell the tale? Friends and family think I’m a little mad to want to go back to nappies and bottles.

Go for it.
Mine are 27, 24, and 15, honestly no worries at all. The older ones helped and couldn't wait to get stuck in and were both ds with baby dd.
They have remained close even through older ones being grown ups. I was worried too, but it was / still is fine. Youngest is an auntie to ds1 dd.

Thank you it’s nice to hear from someone who’s got a big age gap. Did you find it hard going back to nappies, night feeds or anything? I don’t know if it’s because I’m older now, but I’m worrying/over thinking everything thing instead of going with my gut

I personally love the big age gaps between me and my younger brothers (9 years 15 years between us). I'm 27 now and youngest brother is only 12! I live almost 300 miles away from my family but luckily get to see them a couple of times a year. Youngest brother has been hounding me today about when I'm next coming to visit and it makes every visit all the more special although it was difficult missing so much of their lives as they were only 9 and 3 when I moved away but that was because I went to uni so far away.

When my youngest brother left primary school last year the head teacher actually presented her with flowers because every day for the last 24 years she had been going to the school every day with me and my brothers one after the other lol

There is one thing that goes without saying though, make sure the older ones are involved from the start.
By the time the baby comes along they will already have had quite a life before and it will be different for them.
I know dd sometimes thinks that there was a whole family before her that she has missed. It's not a problem though as she loves hearing about their earlier years.
As a teen she is so close to her siblings as well and has proved a good babysitter for ds1 and is looking forward to being Bridesmaid in December.
Sometimes she has complained about feeling like an only child, but not all that often.

No no no! Personally I think that’s insane 😂😂

My mum had my brother when I was 11. That seemed to work out fine! In fact she thinks I'm mad for only having a 2 year gap between my two. Go for it!

I have 9 years between my two. We've had some tension / attention seeking behaviour from the older one recently (baby now a year old) but that's because he was an only child. As you have two older ones, I'd go for it. Just make sure how you manage time for both older children and the littlie.

My stepson is 14 and our bio kids are 4, 2 and 5 months. They think he is the bees knees
He loves them but obviously at his age finds them a little annoying! They do crack him up though and as they get older will bond more I'm sure.

I have similar age children to you op plus 18 month old baby. Having 3 feels like a big step up from having 2 but I love having my little tribe and wouldn't be without my little dd now, though I realise that I have reached my limit in terms of number of children. I am much older than you but I think I would definitely have been inclined to if I had been the same age as you - just be prepared for more noise/chaos/head in three places and different stages. But really it is an individual choice and as usual there are pros and cons to everything in life.

Mine are 18, 9, 8 and 2wks. So I've done a 9yr gap before and now have an 8yr gap between 3 & 4. 4 was very much wanted, just took longer than anticipated.

I started the school run in 2005 and have another 11yrs of primary ahead, but I absolutely love it.