Putting stair gate on son's door.

[sarah8484]

Im trying to get my ds (3y) to sleep in his own room all night. He will go to sleep in there just fine but wakes up in the night and comes into my bed. Im fast asleep and don't realise he's in the bed until morning. I don't want to shut his door. A friend suggested putting a baby gate on his door. I don't know how I feel about it to be honest. Anyone ever done it or have any suggestions to help keep him in his own bed all night. Thanks.

I put up with this for a year from my daughter, she was also 3 and we had a 6 month old baby and she came in every night and we were desperate but so reluctant to use a stair gate (as we had managed without one to stop her using the stairs ) in the end we put it up on her bedroom door and I fully expected her to be hanging off it yelling for us at 2am but no she didn't!! In the morning I asked why not, she said "mummy you put a gate up" so that was that, we left it up for about 3 months and then took it away and she never visited (out of habit) again and I so wish we had done it sooner. Good luck!

Thank you for response Fingers crossed it will be the same for us. Going to try tonight 🤞🏼

Yes we have a baby gate on our DS room (2years old, put it on at 21 months when potty training) hes fine with it.
We have a gro clock and he knows he only comes out at 6.30am when the sun comes up.

We have one as once DD went into her own bed I was worried about her getting up and going into the bathroom or finding something she shouldn’t in another room.
In the night if she wakes she just calls to me from her bed.

Won’t a 3 year old just climb over it?

If you don’t realise he’s there and you all get a good night’s sleep then surely that’s better than him wailing at the stair gate?

We also have a gro clock, our girls still wait for the sun now aged 7 and 5! Requires perseverance!x

What @BertrandRussell said.
Sleep is important and if you are getting a good sleep does it matter that he's cuddled in with you? My littlest ds does this, not every night but a couple of times a week. I wouldn't want to 'lock' him in his room with a stair gate, also he toilets himself independently in the night, so it would be a backwards step having to get up to take him.

Even though Im not noticing him coming in, were not getting a good sleep, both dp and I are waking with terrible back pain. Our 3 year old takes up so much space! And im waking up balanced on the edge of the bed while ds is starfished in the middle.