3rd baby?!

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Hi,

Before I start please let me tell you I'm the biggest worrier! I stress about anything, and then stress that I'm stressing about it 🙈

So I'm 26, married with 2 children, my son is 6 and my daughter is 4. I have spoken about a 3rd child but my husband has never been keen.

A few days ago I found out I was pregnant 😬 only a couple of weeks gone, which was a complete shock to us both. My husband has said he is 95% against us having a third child but will support me no matter what I choose to do.

I want to do what is best for our family and our relationship. I have always loved the thought of having a larger family but for us it has never really been practical with finances, space etc.

We have a lovely little family now and would one more upset the mix?

If we decided not to go through with the pregnancy will I regret it every day for the rest of my life?

I'm so lost on what the best thing to do is, if anyone has any past experiences in a situation similar I'd be so interested in hearing them.

Thank you in advance x

I would personally regret it I think. It might be hard at the start...financially draining etc. But once that phase ends and there all left home, I would always be thinking about that 3rd.

I do think I will regret it. I had a miscarriage quite a while ago now but I often think about it and regret it even though it was out of my hands 😩 it's just so hard to know what to do for the best. I want everyone to be happy

I've just had our third. My other two are 5 & 3. It was planned but DH did it solely because I wanted to. He really wasn't keen at the start.

However she is now his favourite apparently (may have something to do with the fact she can't talk)
Honestly it's been not much harder. I'm way more relaxed this time so most stuff doesn't phase me like it did the first time.

Obviously things like finances are important so you'd have to consider if another would put your other two in hardship.

But my older two are obsessed with the baby. If anything the hardest part about having three is constantly telling the other two to leave her alone.

No one can tell you what to do.....but I’m 34 weeks pregnant with our surprise number 3, and felt very much like “omg what do I do” at first.
Both DH and I got over the initial shock of it, and are now excited to have another baby in the house! DCs are 4 & 2 and are both looking forward to a new baby too. I figure that it’s just one of those things where it may not have been planned, but you make adjustments elsewhere to make everything fall into place

You have no idea how reading your experiences helps. I think deep down I'm really excited but I'm just worrying as it's the unknown and not really what DH has planned 😬 thank you so much x

You might regret not having a third, but you will never regret having him/her. Particularly now that you are already pregnant.
Just prepare for the rollercoaster of emotions your DH may go on, or the divide it could cause between you should you go through with it. Eitherway, you will always love your child no matter what and be grateful for them, but they can certainly change the dynamic.

It sounds like you already know! Abortion can be a lot more traumatic than people realise. Please don't do something you know you will regret!x