Are your children’s vaccines up to date?

Set a reminder

Please or to access all these features

Parenting

For free parenting resources please check out the Early Years Alliance's Family Corner.

My sons friend isn't very nice to him

6 replies

Stelan1245ang2 · 09/08/2019 20:26

Hi I am in a real dilemma. My child has a school friend who we also see outside of school as I have become good friends with his mum. Wether it's on the playground or we have gone out somewhere he speaks to my son and their other friends like dirt. He routinely cries and creates a big scene when he doesn't get his way and says very nasty things especially to my son. He's a very spoilt child and actually spoils the day every time we do something together. When he isn't there the kids get on so well and there is never any drama. He says such nasty things when me and his mum are there I worry what he does when we aren't. It's always been an issue but I feel like I can't ignore it anymore. My child said he doesn't want to go and play with him anymore and I feel like I can't start making excuses and should tell her what my son said. I can't control them being friends at school but feel like I should protect my child from situations I can control. I feel guilty I've let it go on this long because I wouldn't let someone treat me like that so shouldn't let him treat my son like that. I've had sleepless night recently worrying about what I should say to her because I do value her as a friend and don't want it to be awkward when we see each other most days. I obviously wouldn't say what I think of him and would just say what my son said but still think it's going to cause a load of trouble. I know one way or the other I have to get him away from this child but don't know if I should tell her or just keep making excuses till she stops asking to meet up. Has one one been in a similar situation and been able to resolve it? Thanks

OP posts:
Are your children’s vaccines up to date?
magicmallow · 09/08/2019 20:29

Just calmly tell the truth, you owe it to your child to tell her. Try not to get personal with the woman or lay blame on her, but you need to tell her. Let her know it is nothing to do with her, but her son upsets your son with his behaviour.

MrsElizabethShelby · 09/08/2019 20:30

Goodness, grow a backbone and tell her your son doesn't want to play with her son because he is a bully and you won't be organising meet ups anymore.

Someone else could probably put it more diplomatically but protect your son!

Helga55 · 09/08/2019 20:47

How old are they?

You say this child says nasty things when you & his mum are there, what does his mum do/say about his behaviour?

Interested in this thread?

Then you might like threads about these subjects:

Mamaf2ang · 09/08/2019 20:55

I know I need to get a grip and tell her but since having a baby again recently things seems like a massive deal to me and I can't seem to make a simple decision. I worry about the worst possible outcome for everything ATM even though my sons happiness does honestly mean more to me than any friendship. He isn't generally that bothered about the kid I sometimes think he actually bothers me more. It's just the last time we saw them he was particularly nasty and my son said he wasn't going again. My son is very level headed for a 7 year old and a very sweet boy. She definitely notices because she tells him off constantly but with no consequences. My son will probably change his mind never time a day out comes up but I feel like I need to keep him away as kids obviously don't know what's best for them

Cutesbabasmummy · 11/08/2019 08:39

Cant you still see her as a friend without dragging your son into it? Just say that your son has got some other friends that he likes playing with for the time being

LL83 · 11/08/2019 08:47

Keep it simple. If son doesn't want to go he doesn't go. No thank you is fine. If she is a close friend and asks you for more information then tell her gently. "Ds doesn't want to come, he feels xyz."

New posts on this thread. Refresh page
Please create an account

To comment on this thread you need to create a Mumsnet account.

This thread is closed and is no longer accepting replies. Click here to start a new thread.