Advice on 3 year old behaviour

[Rua13]

I'd appreciate some help on dealing with my just turned 3 year olds behaviour.Her behaviour has been trying for a while but it seems to have gone up a notch recently.She bites and hits when she doesn't get her own way.Also, she is a little possessive of me and gets jealous if I talk to others.We recently moved to a new town and she will be starting pre school part time next month so I realise there's lots of change for her.Any advice would be welcome as I'm very demoralised :((

How would you usually deal with it when she is at her worst?
Has she bitten children or just you?

What sort of things have you tried already? Reward charts, time out etc? Are there consequences for bad behaviour. The best advice I have ever been given is don't make empty threats, if you say that something will happen as a consequence of bad behaviour then you've got to see it through.

Thanks for the advice.She hasn't bitten other children but has hit two other children and I'm whacked every day.I don't do reward charts and as for Time Out well I am the one who removes myself to have dd running after me crying.
I am going to follow through on consequences.We are a bilingual family(and dad is soft) so could be frustration and she is an active child.I hope this passes soon.

@Rua13 I would try a mixture of strictness and positivity and lots of warnings.

When I say say strict I mean you have to pull her up on any behaviour you don't like especially politeness and how she talks to you, but you have to be consistent. It doesn't have to be angry, but rather just saying things like 'can you ask nicely' or 'I'm listening, you don't need to shout'

Any time she listens to you, reward her with positivity straight away. Give her a thumbs up, say 'thank you for being polite. Tell her she is being such a good girl today and just randomly through the day if she is behaving give her high fives and thumbs up.

If you are going to play a game with her or take her anywhere, before you start, say something like 'I want us to have a nice time, if you hurt me we will have to stop, so let's have fun' maybe you can give her a high five or a fun handshake to make it positive between you and if she continues to behave, just say to her 'wow, you're being so good today, I will have to tell daddy'

I don't really have any good ideas about what to do when she is actually naughty😐
I would maybe just tell her it makes you sad when she does that stuff and when you are sad you don't like to do fun stuff??
Hope some of the ideas work x

Thanks FindaPenny.I do praise her when she's good and tell her I'm sad when she does something wrong but it seems to go in one ear and out the other.I'll persevere with this and hopefully it'll get through to her

I would not use you being sad and walking off as a primary punishment. That sets up a bad dynamic imo.

Make there be a consequence to you being displeased. Separate your displeasure with her behaviour and any feelings of sadness.

The naughty step and similar time outs are popular for a reason. They work.

You can take emotion out of it. Lift child, put on step, (put back on step and restart timer as often as needed for the first few times) then afterwards you can have a hug and say you do not allow that behaviour, it's finished now and you love her.