Hi everyone,
Looking for advice regarding my two year old and how serious do people think I should take it? Every Saturday she goes to her fathers and has done for little over a year now. Recently I've noticed a change in her behavior around males, she becomes rather aggressive and won't let my current partner help with anything, nor my grandad. Anyway, after extensive googling I found this to be more common than I thought and somewhat normal so my little panic was over, or so I thought..
Fast forward a few days and she then began coming home and saying what I dismissed as her starting to tell lies, she would keep saying 'daddy did it' about anything, for example, she fell the other day literally in front of me and then go on to say yes daddy did it, sometimes even including actions!! She also said more innocent lies such as daddy cut her hair etc... I must add her dad is very spiritual and he has a much softer parenting approach than me, he doesn't believe in punishment and actually attempted to criticize my parenting for not giving in to her fake cries.
Fast forward a few more days and she has now come home and said her teddy which she supposedly loves at her dad's has 'touched her twinkle'. Her twinkle is what we refer to as her vagina, I have then obviously expressed concerns to her dad. I do trust her dad and I genuinely don't think he would ever hurt her but I don't know what happens there and he still lives at home with his parents and brothers and now my brain is going wild. My question is how serious should I take her comments? I have tried questioning her days apart to see if her story changes but it hasn't. There has been no signs of abuse that I can physically see and she is always really excited to go daddies but now I feel very anxious, I just don't know what to do... Any advice welcome! I'm not sleeping and feeling really guilty sending her but I don't want to punish her or her father if it's just a harmless pigment of her imagination. Am I being naive?