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Husband doesn’t want another child

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HallieRose2 · 06/08/2019 08:39

DD is 3 months old and I am in no way ready to have another baby any time soon. I have the implant and would like to start trying once it runs out so DD would be 3 by the time we started trying meaning a decent gap between them.

DH and I always agreed we wanted 2 kids, but after the birth of DD he completely changed his mind and wants only her. I’ll admit that for a few weeks post birth I agreed as my recovery was awful, but have since realised that I desperately want DD to have a sibling. My labour had complications and I know it scared DH which seems to be the main reason he doesn’t want us to have another, he also says that with only one, we can focus on giving her the time and attention she deserves. I understand his reasons and they are reasonable, but I hate to think I won’t have another baby, he’s the best husband and father that we could ask for. Has anyone else been through this or had partners who initially said this then changed their minds?

I’ve tried talking to him and telling him I’d like another eventually but he’s completely set on no more, I’m hoping if I give it a couple of years he might change his mind.

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Kiwiinkits · 06/08/2019 21:14

Yeah wait a bit, he might change his mind when your kid is older and walking and talking and smiling. Biology deliberately makes them adorable at about 12-15 months to trick you into wanting another one!

csam · 06/08/2019 21:17

I was the same situation. My dad is now 3.5yrs and my oh is still adamant he doesn't want another. Wants to give our one daughter the best of everything.

I can't say I'm not a bit sad not to be able to have another.... but tbh I'm not sure how I'd cope with the sleepless nights and exhaustion that having a baby brings 🤣

Bourbonbiccy · 06/08/2019 21:28

He's perfectly within his rights to say no more, but you never know, a lot can happen in 2/3yrs. He may change his mind.

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GeronimoH · 07/08/2019 16:16

It took me 8 years to convince my husband that we wanted a child, we had my DS and he was dead set against another. I agreed not to nag, I had my DS so I was happy. He is 18 months now and the husband has decided its time for another. Once the tiny baby phase has passed and they are walking and talking i think they see how rewarding they are. Good luck :)

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