Someone help me stop my kids arguing before I lose it!

[Chuffingchuff]

I have 2 DC, a 6 year old boy and 2 (almost 3) year old girl, and they do NOT get along. They constantly bicker, argue, shout, scream, hit each other, wind each other up, and I cannot stand it any longer. I have told them off more times than I can count and it makes no difference. Even if 1 of them doesnt really do anything the other will find a reason to start an argument. My youngest is 2 ffs! I didnt think this would start until she was at least 4/5.

I have been trying to keep them busy through the summer, doing things and taking them places every day to get them out of the house. When we are out they arent as bad, will rub along together ok. But the second we are back in the door it starts. I cant live outside for 12 hours of the day it's just unrealistic.

I know all siblings wont get along, but I cant stand the shouting and screaming any more. It's making me feel stressed and shouty and I hate feeling this way. So please, someone with a bit more experience give me some wise words before I tie them up in separate rooms and leave them there! (JOKES! sort of 😆).

It’s exhausting op.
I lost it once when they started arguing and told (probably shouted ) them that I wanted to live as a family who were kind to each other, not a shouty mean family. I asked them what kind of family they wanted to live with?
They both said kind family so then I kept reminding them of that.
If they do argue, I just yell ‘I’m not taking sides so sort it out or go to different rooms’ as they inevitably come to me with he said/she said.
I do a lot of ‘don’t talk to each other if you’re just going to be mean to each other’ and send them to separate rooms.
Set them up in separate areas to do different things.
Every time they get on or sit nicely together to watch a film, I praise them like crazy.
I think it’s important to not take sides but to help them express themselves and then resolve the situation so they learn how to do it themselves eventually.

5 yo boy and 3 yo girl here and they are doing my head in. I've started sending them both to their room at the slightest whine or scream. Does seem to be working because yesterday was oK.

Unfortunately DD is plaguing him today and I'm constantly dragging her off DS who just wants to watch the TV.

@charles11 I have thought I might have to start separating them but really dont want to have to do that. You must be exhausted!

@contraceptionismyfriend problem for me is they share a room, so I would feel like I was picking on 1 of them if I sent 1 and not the other.

I think i am just going to try and stop shouting, its stressing me out more than them, they arent bothered! And just say like Charles that i want to live in a kind family and they need to get along or play separately.