Struggling with toddler behaviour and my temper

[AngryMum19]

I'm a SAHM to DS who is 2.4. I'm struggling with his behaviour so much. He can't talk fluently so everything is just screams and whines and I find myself getting so angry.

He follows me around the house moaning if I leave his sight, he screams and shouts if he doesn't immediately get what he wants. Days out tend to turn sour because he starts a tantrum because I've said he needs to get off a swing for example and he doesn't want to andI end up getting angry and raise my voice because he won't stop shouting and crying and feel as though the whole outing's not been worth it.

He's starting hitting, pinching and even biting me when he's upset and when I tell him off he just laughs in my face.

I have a friend with a DS the same age and when we're out together he behaves so well, doing what his mum says, never kicking off and I'm there trying to wrestle a screaming DS into the car seat at the end of our play date or chasing him as he runs away from me.

My DH works away a lot so often it can be just DS and I all week. I feel bad because I wanted to be a SAHM and now I sometimes really don't enjoy it.

I love him to bits and would never hurt him but I don't want to be an angry parent all the time.

Don't even know what I'm looking for here. Maybe just someone to say they've been there?

I've got 2 dds 8 and 3. My first dd was a darling at that age. She was a lazy child who was happy to sit and colour or play with blocks etc.

My second dd is more like a strong willed tornado that destroys everything in sight. She will not sit still for more than 5 minutes and hasnt since she could walk.

Couple of things I do. If we are at the park. Right you can have one more go on something and then we are going home. Once shes had a go we leave. Yes she sometimes throws a tantrum because she doesn't want to leave but I say calmly we are going home now and take her.

I try to avoid the word no as well. Dd: can I have a snack. Me: you can have a snack after we've eaten lunch. Instead of just saying no.

Ahhh OP you are not on your own! I have come along to try and find tips for an energetic 2.3 yr old. @SmartPlay thank you for your post.

My son has escalated in energy this week and has started hitting and displaying some anger. I really put this down to being frustrated because he is talking so much more but can't communicate a lot of words. My plan is to be calm and patient where possible. Him hitting and throwing is a tough one though.