Taking cocaine while 20 month old in bed

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Right so,

My sister is currently taking drugs and I can't approach her about it. She is with a new boyfriend while her not even 2 year old is in bed. Do I find this wrong/not acceptable because I don't take drugs? Is she well within her right to do what she wants while her child is in bed? I can't quite put into words why I thinks it's wrong.

Can anyone help me understand why this isn't good parenting ? Does anyone disagree with me?

I think it's unacceptable behaviour but I can't really think/pinpoint why it is. Xxx

Thhis is completely unacceptable and a serious safeguarding issue.
Cocaine use would render them completely incapable of ensuring the safety of a child.

And it is illegal.

If you don't think you can talk to her about it, you need to report it to the relevant authorities.

You hit the nail on the head. She isn't in a safe position to ensure the safety of her child. I sometimes struggle with expressing myself so you've helped me in how I am going to approach my dad about this

I don't agree that it would make them physically unable to see to a child, but its a class A illegal drug, so.. not good.

I'm no angel but I certainly wouldn't do any class A drugs when I had a DC in the house.

It really wouldn't. It's not a great situation but in my view it's no worse than having a few drinks or a spliff, both of which are more likely to render you more incapable of childcare.

OldAndWornOut
Have you seen many people under the influence of cocaine?
I have and while some may appear ok, they really don't make good decisions. A 2 year old needs to be in the care of someone in possession of all their faculties.

It's really shit parenting in my opinion. How new is the new boyfriend?

I’ve taken class a drugs when my dc were younger however it was never when I was responsible for them. They were always with my Mam or sister for a few days. I stopped because I copped on to how bloody selfish I was being. You have to do something about this situation hopefully2019 Your sister and her fella could od while the baby is in bed. Cocaine is up there with one of the worst drugs you can take. It’s not called the devils dandruff for no reason

I don't think anyone should be putting a not even two year old to bed and then doing any kind of drug taking. I know some kids sleep through a lot better than my daughter did but I don't think it's acceptable or safe if the child did wake up.

Well, tbh I wouldn't have afew drinks or a spliff if I was looking after a 2 year old. Neither would I drive a car, but I guess some people would. Doesn't make it ok though.
I had forgotten that drug use is fine according to MN though.

crispbutty have you ever been in the company of someone taking coke? It absolutely renders you incapable of taking care of a small child and there is no comparison to smoking a joint or having a few drinks

Yes, I've seen plenty of people.
It just turns them into gobby arseholes, but I don't think it renders them insensible.

oldandwornout I’ve seen people die after taking coke, I’ve seen others kick the living daylight out of someone. I’ve seen people become psychotic. Fair enough if you only do a line, you might be ok. Looking after a toddler? eh no

Thing with coke is - and weed these days - you can never be sure what you're actually taking or how strong it is. You really can't compare it to having a drink. I know with absolute certainty I can have a couple of glasses of wine and barely feel tiddly. As long as I don't buy some dodgy home brew of course!

With cocaine there must be a huge amount of variance in how you'll react when you take it.

Yeah, its a chance drug takers face.
That's exactly why its an illegal substance; nobody knows what its cut with, nobody knows how their internal organs are faring whilst they're sniffing away.

Its hugely irresponsible, I think we can all agree on that.

You can’t say it won’t render the user insensible then oldandwornout
I don’t have a problem with it being illegal (alcohol should actually be illegal.. I love a drink though )
It’s how dangerous it is and then if you mix it with alcohol it can be fatal

I concur.
It is dangerous.

Plenty of times. I work in an industry where it is rife. And have seen people perform their jobs perfectly while others have been none the wiser. So no, it doesn't put them in an incapable stupor.

Sorry but I find that hard to believe crispbutty you’d know if someone had a bottle of wine or a lot of vodka. It might seem they’re performing their job well but cocaine is glaringly obvious. It’s so different to how someone behaves after a joint or a few drinks. Do you work with chefs by any chance? 🤔😀

I’m with @CrispbuttyNo1... worked in an industry where coke use was casual, rife, and pretty much ubiquitous, and we were absolutely able to function well enough to do our (public facing) jobs, and do them well.

Not that it’s a good idea, or laudable, but the issue isn’t that a line or two incapacitates you (it doesn’t, particularly not if you’re an habitual user, and/or if you’re not drinking).

The dangers are what it’s cut with, if you’re a less experienced drug user, and what else you’re doing.
I’d be more worried about a parent in sole charge of a toddler drinking to excess, than doing a couple of lines, frankly.

And that’s the point of this thread thesheepofwallst working and only taking care of yourself while you’re doing coke is one thing but looking after a sleeping toddler while you’re sniffed out of your head?

The thing about cocaine is that it comes from a trail of abuse, slave labour, trafficked women and children and god knows what else.
Something users don't consider.