I was just wanting some opinion on the situation I am in at the moment. I am staying with my sister and brother-in-law in Scotland at the moment for a holiday. The last time we stayed here was 2 years ago. We are into a 10 days of a 14 day stay. They both have been kind to the 3 children DD(13.5), DS (10)and (DS 7). My husband is staying at home and we are going on a family holiday later this month. My sister has no children and is 25+ years married. So I think it must be enormous for them to have four extra people invade their home when they are used to the opposite. So I am very very grateful. But they have made comments about my parenting skills which have made me cry on two occasions since I have been here. They say that I am too soft and my B-in-law has a habit of kind of saying the same thing over and over again, so that it sound s bit like a rant. It got to a point the other day I just stood up, went upstairs and cried into my pillow. My youngest left the tap running in the toilet today and it caused the ceiling in their kitchen to sag a bit and the paint and plaster came away in a small area. The youngest had got on well with my B-in law playing game together etc and Brother-in-law took the news about the ceiling really well. ( I have offered to pay for the damage). But tonight he started another rant about how the youngest need more discipline and boundaries etc.He then rounded off his critique by saying that the youngest will be a problem when he is older and that there is something wrong with him. Just to add my DS (2) was sitting with us at the time. I said something like 'Oh we should make a note of that and revisit in 10 years time' . The youngest then came and sat with us and was being lovely to my brother-in-law. I just felt awful and again took myself off to cry. DS (3) can be challenging as he is very loud and gets angry and shouts if he can't get a word in. He swears too sometimes. Which I know is unacceptable and he does get privileges removed if he does so. He is very bright and had a good behavioural report from school. My sister and Brother-in-law have been do kind but making comments about the teenager staying in her room and my B-in-law telling my DS(2) to take off an ankle bracelet he was wearing is confusing and disappointing to me. Saying hurtful comments when there is no professional training or expertise to back them up is a bit much to take. My B-in-law has no friends and my sister had no girlfriends. But they seem happy together. I think they are just happy with each other. What upsets me most is that on the 5 hour train journey from London we talked occasionally to an elderly couple who interacted with the children and as we were getting off they complimented me on how sociable and delightful the children were.