Am I in the wrong???

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So today I took my three month old LG out shopping, as I was walking down the street with her in her pram a man in a wheelchair stopped and asked her name and complimented her which I don't mind I get that a lot since she's been born, so that lasted for like 30 seconds then he proceeded to grab my babies hand and put his face close to hers which scared her so she started screaming.
I have never let a stranger touch my baby as because I don't know them I don't feel comfortable with it so I politely said please don't touch her she doesn't like it and I don't feel comfortable, then his carer got angry with me because I was "being rude" to a disabled person. I feel bad for being so upfront with a disabled person but I don't want anyone whom I don't know touching my child. Am I in the wrong? I feel guilty but the same time angry that he scared my child and touched her without my consent 🙄 the carer embarrass me in front of the whole town I probably looked like a right B**ch too.

I was in a cafe today attempting to heat my child’s milk up, sort out my bag, get bib out etc, meanwhile baby was crying cos she was hungry. Turned round to get her out the pram and a random lady was talking to her to stop her crying - fair enough. She then asked if I was heating my daughters milk and if so could she hold her while I did it?! Errrr, no.

People are weird. I don’t think you were wrong.

Of course you're not wrong and I wouldn't give a shit what the carer or the whole bloody town thinks. That man should not have touched your baby.

Why are you sorry for being ‘upfront’ with a disabled man? You treat a disabled person as you would anyone else. Unless they have cognitive issues he is perfectly able to understand that you do not want a stranger to touch your child. Being disabled doesn’t give you extra privileges .

I don't see any problem with what you said.

This is asked often on MN, and there is quite a divided view.
I'm in the "it takes a village" camp. I liked people interacting with mine when they were little.

I think it is instinctive in all of us to put a finger out to a little baby for them to grab onto. We are hard-wired to be sociable being (like most of the ape family), and if a member of the public isn't a MNer, then they probably don't realise that there are people who don't like people interacting with their babies.

I felt bad for being upfront because I am sure he had something else wrong with him mentally, he was speaking and acting like anyone else but you could tell and that's why I feel bad about it. I just hate the thought of a stranger touching my baby especially without my consent. It was the same when I was pregnant, I had kids of people touching my bump and I couldn't stand it 🤣

Feel like I want to wrap my baby up in bubble wrap every time I go out now lol

Interacting is one thing, touching is quite another. You do not touch a stranger's baby without permission. Nothing more to be said.

I would have said the same. Don't be hard on yourself.

I would hate that! You did nothing wrong x

I think if it bothers you then you're fine to say what you said.

I don't really get the whole 'nobody touch my baby' thing though, in general.

I wouldn't worry about what you said. The other day some woman in out of hours waiting room took DS out of dh's arms. It pissed me off loads. I'm too 'british' to say anything though and just moan about it after (I'd rather be able to do what you did and say something but I really struggle)

You weren't in the wrong I hate this too I've never liked any stranger to touch my children and I don't get why people feel the need to touch someone's child or baby would you touch an adult in the same way no so why is it appropriate to do it to a baby or child 🤷‍♀️

You weren't in the wrong

Because they're so cute and squishy @2beautifulbabs

People think the rules of society don’t apply to babies and children. Parents are guilty of this too forcing children to give kisses and cuddles to relatives for example

I’d have ripped his head off!!

I’d have ripped his head off!!

Sure you would.

Nothing that you said was wrong. He has to learn not to do things like that, I hope he does. The man's carer was obviously not very well trained! I'm horrified by him.

You're OK though, worry not.

I work with disabled people and would have made sure they didn't touch anyone's children, as I dont like people touching my babies. The carer was rude and should have known better.

Look but don’t touch applies well in this circumstance.

Im not really in the "Dont touch my baby camp" But i understand other people don't like it, And i see nothing wrong with what you said and wouldn't give it anymore headspace.

@Bluntness100 how would you feel if a man grabbed your hand and got right into your personal space? It’s not OK.